Thanks for the responses
I don't own my own home, I rent from housing association,so there's no issue there and I've only got a little run around so that's no problem.
When I met with the woman from Aperture, she told me that bankruptcy would make me pay higher payments because their expenditure guidelines are a lot tighter than an IVA is that true? She also got me to get my mum to write a letter saying I paid her 100 per month for childcare which I don't but she said it wouldn't affect my mum in anyway in terms of tax etc because I was worried about getting her in to trouble with hmrc, she's retired now so I wouldn't want it to affect her pension or anything. She said they don't show the creditors they just use the letter to tick a box to say it's an expenditure.
The debt I owe is a little over 40k is a shortfall from a repossessed house among a couple of loans and a credit card.
My ex told me not to do anything that it would all be ok, we could sort it...while he went bankrupt and left the full debt to me. I'll never be so naieve again that's for sure! I'm sure he will have told the OR he paid me x amount of child support to make sure he didn't have to pay anything towards his bankruptcy but he doesn't give me a penny.
There is definitely a lot to think about but id be prepared to pay for 36 months if I had to so that me and my son could get our lives together and enjoy it sooner rather than later. If the IVA duration did increase due to my lower income, I take it that if my income ever went up they wouldn't reduce the duration back down?
If they do propose an extension can I reject it? What would happen then?
Sorry I'm waffling but I have so many questions. Thanks again for your help