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Post by heavydebt » Sun Jul 11, 2010 8:14 pm
Hi everyone. I was wondering if you have any ideas of what I should do. I want to make it quite clear first though that, apart from the health of my family, paying my iva is my number one priority.

Some of you may remember from a previous post that I am unhappy in my job. This has got worse and worse over the years and has unfortunatley now peaked. I'm anxious, stressed and grossly undervalued for what I do. On top of all that, I am being told that my job may not be safe in a few months due to the re-organisation of the service and that 7 people will be interviewing, along with anyone else interested for three new posts. This isn't uncommon however, I don't for one minute think I will be picked.

Currently, I am going in to an office at the moment where no-one speaks to me, they make drinks for one another and I have nasty comments made as if I am not there all day long. I can't cope anymore this greatly effects my homelife and I feel I am wasting valuable years of my life.

I have been offered another job in a different department although at the moment all they can offer me is less hours than I do now but at the same hourly rate( there will be overtime occasionally). Would I be wrong in considering this? I thought I could do this and another job to make up the difference in pay. I have been discussing it with hubby all weekend. He thinks I should just do it but with my sensible head on, I know this will not be the view of my IP and I can understand their concerns with it too.

The lady wants to know tomorrow and trying to make a decision is now making me physically sick. I will have extra pay for the next two months from enhancements so will have about 8-9 weeks grace to secure a second job which I don't think will be hard a all. We are only talking about an extra 15 hours a week.

Sorry long post but thanks in advance for your replies x
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Post by reesay » Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:17 pm
Hi

My husband changed jobs 4 months into our IVA. Its not been easy as its less money but we have made it work. He is a lot happier, we are getting on so much better and even some skin problems he has had for the last 10 years we've been together (psorisas) has been steadily clearing up over the last 6 months. He dreaded going into work on a Monday morning,he started worrying about going back again by the previous saturday night!
We were initially worried about it but our IVA company was very helpful and too be honest life is just too short and he would of taken his new job even if it meant us both working extra jobs as I do not think its worth being that unhappy and I could not see him being so stressed and sad all the time, I am sure your hubby feels the same anout you.
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Post by wickerwish » Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:23 pm
If i could get another job i would change. Im off work with stress related to work. You must do what you feels right for you. Anybody can have my job if they want it for free.
 
 

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Post by heavydebt » Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:28 pm
Thankyou so much for your reply, you don't know how much it means to me. I am really struggling.
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Post by heavydebt » Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:31 pm
Unfortunately, my job wouldn't be any better if I was away from there for a while. It's the actual people in it and they will never leave. They have seen off more managers than I've had hot dinners!
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Post by Skippy » Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:31 pm
You need to do what's right for you - life is too short and we spend too much time at work to be miserable. I've been there and done it, and no one thinks any more of you.

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Post by kallis3 » Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:38 pm
Too true Skip!
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Post by 31101932 » Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:39 pm
My advice is to go for the new job.

For most of my IVA period my job just got worse, with changes of managers and supervisors resulting in counselling for stress.

I know that I was not the only one in the team referred for counselling at this time.

Happily I got a job in another department last October ands I am so much happier in this job.

No extra (unpaid) hours are required in my new job, and the one day I did have to go in on a Saturday I got paid for half a day at time and a half when I was only there two hours.

Also, my new boss is so happy with my work that my payrise this year was more than the graded staff received.
 
 

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Post by heavydebt » Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:45 pm
It's tough though isn't it? I have stayed in this job so long because we needed to pay our creditors, now we still need to pay them in our iva. Only difference is now we can see where the money is going and unbelieveably are a little more comfortable.

I can't be this miserable for the next 6 years!

Thanks for all your support.
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Post by 31101932 » Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:59 pm
I agree that it is tough, and if I had not been in an IVA and had no debts to pay I might well have applied for redundancy when it was offered last year.
 
 

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Post by kallis3 » Sun Jul 11, 2010 10:01 pm
I did apply for redundancy, and early retirement and got turned down for both!
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Post by Jan01 » Sun Jul 11, 2010 10:02 pm
I am just going to echo what others have said go for the new job you will manage your IVA and will feel happier and more contented. As we spend most of our waking hours at work we need to feel happy there.

Accept the new job and feel better about things.

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Post by heavydebt » Sun Jul 11, 2010 10:03 pm
I'm in a weird job where my boss on £40,000 fires bullets via me but is too scared to step in the office and meet them face to face but he expects me to do it evertday! Coward.
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Post by ThriftyWitch » Sun Jul 11, 2010 10:06 pm
Someone I know once said to me, that 'if it doesn't feel right, then don't waste time doing it'. I will never forget those words because its so right.

You get one life. You began an IVA to get your life back, you need to sort the job issue for sure.

I will say one thing though - I would seriously consider mentioning your feelings to someone in you HR dept, or someone....ignoring someone on purpose and being nasty is school playtime relived - bullying is not acceptable and even if they aren't bullying in the sense of back at school, ignoring someone on purpose and making nasty comments is still bullying in my books!

Good Luck x
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Post by heavydebt » Sun Jul 11, 2010 10:12 pm
Sadly my HR department know. As crazy as it sounds, and I know it does to everyone until they meet them, no-one wants to go near them. They have been like this for years. Sometimes I think, well it's them not me, but after 4 years I can't take anymore of it. If you go to HR, they just say let them have what they want, keep them quiet!

Thanks again for all the support.
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