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Post by Daveyboi » Wed May 26, 2010 3:24 pm
Hi peeps

As we all know this forum deals with peoples problems and many people are now or have been in a very dark place in their lives financially. There are things however which helps each of us get through each day and remain positive in the majority of times so I thought maybe we could share some uplifting stories of what makes us happy and battle on through hard times.

Personally, I share my life with my wonderful fiance Tony. I have been with him for over 9 years and he always knows how to make me smile and laugh which is a very useful personality trait during my hard times. I have amazing friends who I love socialising with or going round theirs for dinner when we have no money to go out. They also are great listeners and will always support me when I need their help and guidance just as I am always there for them.

I enjoy swimming, badminton, cycling and playing on the Nintendo Wii for sport. I find positive exercise cleans out your negative energy and replaces it with a charged feeling of satisfaction and contentment. I love singing at Karaoke and tend to sing west end musical songs or operatic style songs. I am grade 6 piano, Reiki Healer level 2 and spiritual councillor. All these interests and by being surrounded by good people help me go on each day no matter how stressed or down I feel and I am grateful for every good thing I have in my life to counteract the bad.

I would love to hear what happy experiences help others through their bad times and hopefully add some positive stories to this forum.

Davey xx
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Post by Shining » Wed May 26, 2010 3:55 pm
A great post, I share my life with my husband and my four children, I have one daughter living at home who is my princess, we're very close and she keeps me going when I feel down. The elder 3 children have all left home and settled down and between them have given me 5 beautiful granchildren with 2 more on the way so 7 by Christmas!

I love my dogs and train them to a high obedience level, this is my way of taking time out and gives me so much pleasure, I find it rewarding for myself and for the dog to be well behaved is an added bonus. One day I would like to get back into competions but sadly for now money prevents this.

I teach IT for my sins and enjoy it, towards the end of term, I'm worn out though and do need the break. I'm always learning to keep up to date with IT technology and sometimes want to stop learning and change career directions but not sure I'll ever actually do it.
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Post by Daveyboi » Wed May 26, 2010 3:59 pm
Lesley, what a wonderful large family you have. As I am with a male partner it scares me sometimes to think when my parents go I won't have children to keep me occupied or look after me when I am old. It's great you have good times with your dog Tony wants a dog when we buy our own place in the future. I think when my IVA concludes I will save up for 2-3 years get a decent deposit down then try for a mortgage and then knowing we can make our home our own properly will be a dream come true for me.

I am excellent at computers and was put in the top class for IT at secondary school and did the top paper and got a C in my GCSE which was my lowest grade all the others were A's and B's. Ironic how bad I was at French and got a B and got a C in IT which I loved and was great at very bizarre.
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Post by Goosed » Wed May 26, 2010 4:05 pm
I took my niece to a children`s hospital yesterday for a check up and x-ray after an operation she`s had...It was heartbreaking to see so many children, some only babies, with serious illnesses.
No matter how down we all may get, or how far we may think we have fallen, that visit to that hospiatal put eveything into context for me.
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Post by Daveyboi » Wed May 26, 2010 4:12 pm
I think we all know there are worse troubles out there goosed but everyones problems are the world to them. I think its healthy for people to look at the positive aspects in their lives and be grateful for them as opposed to saying there are others worse off than me it doesn't have the same uplifting affect which is often needed when depressed or when feeling lost.
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Post by Shining » Wed May 26, 2010 4:27 pm
I do agree sometimes about putting things into context as I felt very sorry for myself just this week and was thinking 'woe is me'. I then found my cousin had gone for a routine appendix operation and is now on life support and has been since last Thursday. I won't post the details of what went wrong due to some people maybe being squeamish but health is priceless.

Keep up to date with your computer studies as it's forever moving forward and you'll be fine Dave, I hope one day you get your mortgage and Tony gets his dog as they do give a lot of pleasure. You sound like a great guy. xx
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Post by Daveyboi » Wed May 26, 2010 4:32 pm
Thanks Lesley

We was going to spain in June because a friend was going to let us stay at his mums with him but now his other half can't get the time off so we can't go now. Have to say I am dissapointed but will figure something else out i am sure.
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Post by Goosed » Wed May 26, 2010 5:06 pm
Dave.sr wrote:

I think we all know there are worse troubles out there goosed but everyones problems are the world to them. I think its healthy for people to look at the positive aspects in their lives and be grateful for them as opposed to saying there are others worse off than me it doesn't have the same uplifting affect which is often needed when depressed or when feeling lost.
Couldn`t agree more Dave.sr, I`m just at the stage where I felt as though it`s the end of the world...IVA proposal being drafted, so not knowing how things will go, etc...The hospital visit just snapped me out of it, that`s all.
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Post by Daveyboi » Wed May 26, 2010 5:12 pm
I am happy you feel better goosed and i wish you the best of luck :)
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Post by Goosed » Wed May 26, 2010 5:19 pm
Dave.sr wrote:

I am happy you feel better goosed and i wish you the best of luck :)
Cheers mate...By the way, you must get a dog...My choc lab is always there with a big smothering lick all over my face, it`s especially nice when he`s just had a drink[:D]
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Post by DEBTFREEJAN2015 » Wed May 26, 2010 5:27 pm
Were only early days into our IVA,but also i have a brilliant husband(soul mate)who also makes me laugh.Our DD is our world, and some of things she comes out with(only 6yrs) are sooooooo funny.Also since going into the IVA any bargain i get really gives me a buzz. I really appreciate now what i've got and acheived, but defo seeing the savings amount go up and number of months to end of IVA go down make me smile!!!!!!
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Post by Daveyboi » Wed May 26, 2010 5:28 pm
Haha

Tony had dogs when he lived at home so I guess he misses them but I never had a dog so it will be a new experience for me. I believe I would love it though especially as a puppy wow so cute most of them.

I am off to work shortly 12 hours nights to look forward to today and tomorrow. At least I am off over bank holiday weekend which will be nice. Surprised no-one else has any positive things to share surely we're all not that down in the dumps are we peeps :(

Davey xx
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Post by Goosed » Wed May 26, 2010 5:35 pm
Dave.sr wrote:

Haha

Tony had dogs when he lived at home so I guess he misses them but I never had a dog so it will be a new experience for me. I believe I would love it though especially as a puppy wow so cute most of them.

I am off to work shortly 12 hours nights to look forward to today and tomorrow. At least I am off over bank holiday weekend which will be nice. Surprised no-one else has any positive things to share surely we're all not that down in the dumps are we peeps :(

Davey xx
I work nights too...and my dog is always there,sat waiting for me behind the front door every morning without fail...I`m sure he can tell the time
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Post by struggling63 » Wed May 26, 2010 6:32 pm
For me, it's the thought of where I was 5 years ago that keeps me going!

I dreaded the phone ringing, the post arriving, and now I don't!

Sure, there have been hard times during the IVA, the worst thing being not be able to go on holiday or have nights out as often as I'd like, but the fact that I'll be able to soon, and pay cash rather than relying on credit cards is a great feeling.

I already have the first three IVA months planned, I'll be booking a holiday, and buying one of these new fangled HDTV's with the first three months money!

Then after that, I'm going to start building a bit of a nest egg so I've always got something behind me in the future.

Oh, and I've always wanted a handmade suit for work, and that will be affordable too!

I'm getting excited now, just at the thought of freedom!
 
 

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Post by Skippy » Wed May 26, 2010 6:34 pm
I've just seen this thread.

I live with my partner Dave and cat Harry Puss and they, along with my friends and family, are what keeps me going. Dave is always there for me, and Harry makes me laugh (anyone who's posted for a while might remember the pond weed saga from a few years ago!) and is quite affectionate in his own way!

For relaxtion I enjoy reading (crime fiction), listening to music, Wii Fit, and when I get around to it, going to the gym.
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