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Posted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 4:25 pm
by GettingHelp
Little frustrated to be honest, when I applied for an IVA i wanted us to do it together, he was adamant that he had his debts under control and this was not the route to go down. Anyways to cut a long story short, apparently not, had pay day loans that I didnt know about plus a debt that has come to bite him in the botton before we met which I wasnt aware of. We finally had a long chat when things got a little bit too much and I pursuaded him to call Mels office, he got his pack through today. So now going through all the motions of preparing his IVA application. I am with Mel myself so I know he is in good hands so I guess better late than never. On the bright side, we will both be debt free in 5 years god willing.

Posted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 4:31 pm
by kallis3
Glad he is getting sorted. I know how hard it is to admit that you have problems. At least it's all out in the open now.

Posted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 4:42 pm
by GettingHelp
Thanks Jan, I know he hid it very well, but I knew that something was wrong, i kept asking was he okay, was work okay, the children okay, then it all got too much, I am so pleased he agreed to get help, he was such a tremendous support to me and continues to be so, so now its my turn this will all come good Im sure of it :)

Posted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 4:50 pm
by kallis3
You will both be fine and you have a good team behind you.

Posted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 11:45 pm
by MelanieGiles
It's really no problem - at least he tried to make it work and now realises for himself that he cannot do it without help. We are very glad to have you both on board, and I know you will be a tremendous support to each other.

Posted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 11:49 pm
by Broke of London
Men!!! LOL

Posted: Sun Oct 10, 2010 9:01 am
by Shining
It's the hardest thing ever and more so for some individuals to admit they've a problem, he's getting help now from the best in the business in my opinion and wish him all the best. xx

Posted: Sun Oct 10, 2010 11:58 am
by kallis3
I wish him all the best as well. I know how hard it is to admit to a problem. I kept it all from hubby for months before it all came crashing down around my ears.

Posted: Sun Oct 10, 2010 2:05 pm
by GettingHelp
Thanks everyone for your good wishes, we both feel so much better now the decision is made, he seems happier today, started to gather paperwork, without his support when I was going through my IVA process I dont know how I would have coped, he dealt with all the calls originally until I felt brave enough to talk to them myself, it now time for us look forward to his acceptance hopefully. This site is an absolute godsend. Thank you

Posted: Sun Oct 10, 2010 2:09 pm
by kallis3
I'm sure it will all go ok. You can now answer his calls for him!