Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 11:15 am
So many of you have shared your stories of trials and tribulation that I feel that I can do the same.
I'm 40 and here's my story. It goes back to March 2005. I was at the supermarket with my mum and dad was waiting in the car. I'd gone out to the car to put the shopping in and mum had stayed behind to get a lottery ticket. As she walked back to the car I saw her and waved she waved back then disapeared. Turned out she just collapsed. The hospital though she had suffered a stroke. It turned out not to be a stroke but to be lung cancer that had spread to her brain. Radiotherapy followed along with steroids. She could't walk unaided but seemed to be improving. End of May the radiotherapy had finished. Things were looking up. Then dad had a heart attack. Through all this I was on sick leave and receiving statutory sick pay. Dad was in hospital seemed to be doing better then we received a call asking us to get to the hospital as soon as possible.
Dad survived that and was due to be released on the Thursday. On Wednesday mum was feeling a bit rough, nothing to bad or so I thought. On Thursday morning I went to her room to find her having fits, she was rushed to hospital. I had to go to dad's ward and tell him about mum. I refused to leave her hospital room from that moment on. The following Tuesday she died.
By this time I was suffering from quite serious stress and depression. On the Sunday after the funeral Dad had another heart attack. Well several operations later (triple bypass and operation to get the heart beating correctly) he was doing okay.
Then he developed a cough that wouldn't go. By this time it was end of 2006. The doctor sent him for a chest x-ray. They discovered he had emphasema and asbestos plaques from working in the shipyards in the '50's. The also saw a shadow and needed to do more tests. Yep you guessed it he has lung cancer. He had radiotherapy and everything looked good. Then just before Christmas we went back for a general check up and discovered there were more cancer cells. At the last check up in February it looks like it has spread to his right lung. We have a CT scan on 12th May to see how bad it is.
Through all this I have suffered quite badly with depression. When mum died I was living on my credit cards to pay bills buy food and everything. There wasn't enough money as dad was on a state pension and my sick pay was hardly anything.
This is how all my debt escalated. I still feel bad that I can't pay it all or even some of it back. I was trying to do an IVA until I lost my job now it's going to be bankruptcy and I still feel guilty and bad.
I'm sorry to have rambled on but I'm having quite a bad day and just want to run away and cry. I can't do that though as there's still dad to look after, still money to find for bills and food. At least I have the money for the BR fees.
Don't feel you need to reply I just needed to share to stop me crying.[:(]
Sue
I'm 40 and here's my story. It goes back to March 2005. I was at the supermarket with my mum and dad was waiting in the car. I'd gone out to the car to put the shopping in and mum had stayed behind to get a lottery ticket. As she walked back to the car I saw her and waved she waved back then disapeared. Turned out she just collapsed. The hospital though she had suffered a stroke. It turned out not to be a stroke but to be lung cancer that had spread to her brain. Radiotherapy followed along with steroids. She could't walk unaided but seemed to be improving. End of May the radiotherapy had finished. Things were looking up. Then dad had a heart attack. Through all this I was on sick leave and receiving statutory sick pay. Dad was in hospital seemed to be doing better then we received a call asking us to get to the hospital as soon as possible.
Dad survived that and was due to be released on the Thursday. On Wednesday mum was feeling a bit rough, nothing to bad or so I thought. On Thursday morning I went to her room to find her having fits, she was rushed to hospital. I had to go to dad's ward and tell him about mum. I refused to leave her hospital room from that moment on. The following Tuesday she died.
By this time I was suffering from quite serious stress and depression. On the Sunday after the funeral Dad had another heart attack. Well several operations later (triple bypass and operation to get the heart beating correctly) he was doing okay.
Then he developed a cough that wouldn't go. By this time it was end of 2006. The doctor sent him for a chest x-ray. They discovered he had emphasema and asbestos plaques from working in the shipyards in the '50's. The also saw a shadow and needed to do more tests. Yep you guessed it he has lung cancer. He had radiotherapy and everything looked good. Then just before Christmas we went back for a general check up and discovered there were more cancer cells. At the last check up in February it looks like it has spread to his right lung. We have a CT scan on 12th May to see how bad it is.
Through all this I have suffered quite badly with depression. When mum died I was living on my credit cards to pay bills buy food and everything. There wasn't enough money as dad was on a state pension and my sick pay was hardly anything.
This is how all my debt escalated. I still feel bad that I can't pay it all or even some of it back. I was trying to do an IVA until I lost my job now it's going to be bankruptcy and I still feel guilty and bad.
I'm sorry to have rambled on but I'm having quite a bad day and just want to run away and cry. I can't do that though as there's still dad to look after, still money to find for bills and food. At least I have the money for the BR fees.
Don't feel you need to reply I just needed to share to stop me crying.[:(]
Sue
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