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I have struggled through the day and finally gave up at 6.45pm. Its been a long hard day at work and I feel dreadful. Yesterday at home I kept falling asleep and couldn't get up this morning. I don't think anything the matter apart from stress and "caring". My husbands condition is quite bad at the moment which means I have to keep driving him to work because he can't walk very far so for the last two weeks I have been out of the house at half 7 and at least 5 of those days I could have had a lie in. Not had a lie in past half 7 now for 2 weeks, then either cleaning in the house, sorting paper work, or working. I am not a happy bunny at the moment. Everyone at work kept telling me how dreadful I look today and I have just kept eating to get through.

Oh Elizabeth, I really don't know what to say, but I can sort of understand what you are going through - I watched my mum care for my dad for years and it wore her out.

I don't mean to pry, but do you get any help caring fo your husband? It might be worth speaking to your GP - they might be able to get you and your husband help.

Take care, and make sure you look after yourself x

Elizabeth, so sorry to hear that you are struggling. It is stressful caring for a relative and having to live your own life as well. As Skippy says, see if the doctor can help. You can't go on like this as you will become ill yourself.

Sending you a big hug.

thinking of you elizabeth, you sound worn out!

as others have said could you perhaps not get some outside help, you cannot carry on indefinately or else you will be poorly yourself!

take care

love barb x

Hey Elizabeth, i'm so sorry you're feeling like this. As everyone else has said, you could do with some help, you have so much to deal with, I don't want you to burn out. I'm thinking of you. Viki X

Hi Elizabeth

I wonder if its worth writing down all your worries at the moment? Then try to find the areas in your life that youre finding so difficult and then target them?

I am sure youre not happy right now and I dont think you know why, youre too worn out and frazzled. You do have needs too, whatever the demands of the family are. One problem of being a carer is that you dont feel you should have needs.... right? And perhaps feel guilty for needing someone to care for you instead?

I dont know how youre getting on with the debt thing right now but I know it can take the wind well and trully out of youre sails. A bit like giving you a personality transplant, where you seem to focus on the negatives as the positives are hidden or overwhelmed by the fears that debt brings.

Either way my love, you need something, a helping hand or just someone else to share the burnden.
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