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Posted: **Fri Sep 12, 2008 6:14 pm**

Well i've had a bit of a rant in my blog..

my ex turned up today at 3 o'clock to give daughter her birthday card for tomorrow.. he asked if she was in.. doesn't he know she goes to school!! It has really upset me as he called earlier in the week drunk on the phone and made her cry!! Confronted him today and he doesn't know what he said!!

I've told him to either be a proper dad or stay away.. I can see her on Jeremy kyle in a few years time.. head all over the place.. last time she saw him was June 8th and he said i'll see you next week.. how dare he.. we don't even know where he lives!! or how to get in touch..

How dare he make my baby cry!!

Sorry for the moan, but do you think I was unreasonable

Posted: **Fri Sep 12, 2008 6:19 pm**

Oh Ang, ex's dont' get me started.

I feel for you I really do, your her Mum she'll always know you did right by her. Kids have unconditional love until a certain age and then they realise.....

Bless her and wish her happy birthday from me too xx

Posted: **Fri Sep 12, 2008 6:21 pm**

thanks lesley.. he brings out the worst in me.. think partly scares me too, when he's drunk

never mind.. she's ok and thats the main thing

Posted: **Fri Sep 12, 2008 6:27 pm**

Oh no Ang, how awful. You're doing really well, not unreasonable at all. Some people will just not learn. Take care and a happy birthday to your daughter. X

Posted: **Fri Sep 12, 2008 6:40 pm**

I am sorry to hear about your trouble Angela. There's not much else I can say except that not all blokes are rsoles.

Posted: **Fri Sep 12, 2008 6:58 pm**

My ex-husband brings out the worst in me too!

He can wind me up so easily and I will always blame him for me being in an IVA, I know I could have said 'no' to my daughter but I didn't.

Posted: **Fri Sep 12, 2008 7:04 pm**

Ang,

No, you're not being unreasonable and feel free to rant and moan anytime, we all do it now and again[:)]

Hope your Daughter has a lovely Birthday.

Posted: **Fri Sep 12, 2008 7:24 pm**

I would have done exactly the same.

Posted: **Fri Sep 12, 2008 11:12 pm**

Ang, your daughter knows that she has you, and that you love her. She will hopefully see her father for what he is.

I hope she has a wonderful birthday tomorrow.

Posted: **Sat Sep 13, 2008 8:10 am**

Thanks everyone.. she's happy this morning, over the moon with her speakers even though wrong colour (blast ebay).. I got her a padded tray for eating off, as she likes using hubbys.. little things like that are always what make her smile and laugh!! Was only £2 hee hee!! Going out for lunch to with Nanna which is 2 for 1 so all in all will cost about £10 for the 3 of us.. you can't grumble. Then she's off to the cinema with her friends and then her best friend is sleeping over!!

Posted: **Sat Sep 13, 2008 8:40 am**

A very happy birthday to your daughter ang. You are not unreasonable at all. Believe me she will as she gets older see him for what he is and realise the problem is him and nothing to do with her. I have been through similar, false promises and my daughter being let down, she is now 30 and has vey little if no contact with her dad, she has said many times steve is her dad he brought her up and that is the important thing to her.
Hope you all have a great day together.

Ang xx

Posted: **Sat Sep 13, 2008 8:56 am**

Have a lovely day today Ang ... and I can only reiterate what Ang has just said, your daughter will one day make up her own mind, in the meantime all you can do is to protect her from and try to minimise any emotional of psychological harm that may be caused to her by being tough with your ex.

I am so glad those days are over for me

Debbie

Posted: **Sat Sep 13, 2008 9:57 am**

Think i'm a bit of a dreamer really Debbie.. would love for him to change his ways and be a good dad.. I love my Dad and he is always there for me.. and I think why should she have to find out what he's like! Why can't he change? Never mind can live in hope...

Posted: **Sat Sep 13, 2008 11:18 am**

Happy birthday to your little one[:)]But how awful of your ex.I will never understand how a parent can behave that way towards their child,it is just beyond all belief.But it sounds like you are a wonderful mum,& your love & strength will more than compensate for her dad behaving the way he does.My stpdaughter's mum hasnt contacted her for nrly 2 yrs,then 2 wks ago totally out of the blue rang to say she wanted to take her shopping for her birthday!?! Talk about mental cruelty.It makes my blood boil !! xx

Posted: **Sat Sep 13, 2008 12:33 pm**

I hate it when people do this to their kids. My hubby has two children from his previous marriage. Apart from the first 6 months after him and his ex split and she was trying to dictate to him when and where he could see his kids (and the plans didn't include me), he has been there for them.

We had them to stay regularly, went on holiday, even went to his ex's wedding reception, and vice versa! We have always been involved, and I think we are all the better for it.