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Don't you just hate it when you are obligated to go to a family event which you know is going to cost you loads? My mum is getting remarried this year and her hen night is coming up. They are going to a dinner/entertainment place which is £35 a ticket a cab there and back will be £10 then there is my train fare to get there £18 and drinks Its my mums hen night, she knows about the IVA and has kindly offered to buy my meal/entertainment ticket but its still going to cost me in the region of £45 pounds and to be honest thats 2 weeks of my families entertainmant budget I feel so bad about going but its one of those things I cant get out of.
Then there is the wedding. We have even decided that our boys will not come as a family room at the hotel is an extra £25 and then they will need new outfits..... Weddings dont half cost a bomb to go to and to be honest I wish we could just skip it! Things like this within an IVA are difficult arent they? I know we can find the money to make it happen but I really would rather spend that on something we have chosen or save it. Does that sound bad? After all she is my mum!

No it doesn't sound bad and I have similar thoughts. Despite me having 8 grandchildren I had no nieces or nephews until January of this year and still not met my first and only niece as I can't afford the diesel/hotel as they don't live local. Sure my brother thinks I don't care.

My IVA last payment was in January and things will look better soon but priorities etc need sorting first.

Go enjoy yourself and don't feel guilty. Your mum is worth it. xx

Family events are always difficult when you're in an IVA, but you won't be in it forever. Please enjoy your Mum's wedding, it will be important to her to see you having a good time,

X

Thank you Lesley and Julie I will go and enjoy it and think not about the money so much!

Enjoy the wedding. Personally I would use lack of money to get out of the hen night - I've never been to one apart from my own and I hate that! I would have been so much happier not going but I was pretty much forced into it!

Seriously have a great time x

If your mum is aware of your circumstances then she will know things are difficult and will understand...going to the wedding is far more important than the hen night. Don't feel pressurised into having to go - having all the family at the wedding will be better for all concerned...I am sure your mum will understand.