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i got enough stress as it is but now she stormed off to bed cos i want to watch football,i at end of my tether

oh dear not good, be like my husband and do the ironing while football on then she'll be happy as I am!

This is a terrible time for both of you, maybe you are both more stressed than you both realise. I hope things start to calm down for you soon.

We (oh & I) are having a 'quiet' night as well!

Hi Michael

Sorry to hear you're not having a good evening. Stress is a terrible thing isn't it? Me and my husband are in an IVA (I'm not sure whether you are or not)and I am having a really negative day today, I just said to him that I don't think I have it in me to carry on with this for another three and a bit years but he is ever hopeful and said that we will muddle through it, one way or another! Aaagh! I am at work so unfortunately I can't storm off but if I were at home with him now, I probably would have done! I just feel like screaming some days! Its nothing personal, its just frustration at the situation. Maybe this is how your other half feels? Sorry if this sounds a bit strange, but you sounded like you needed someone to reply. Hope you enjoy the football and that your other half calms down soon.

Liz
x

Sorry if I sounded too light hearted, I'm having a phone call from my IP at 8pm to discuss my options as to a way forward, we have lots of problems whilst in IVA and I can only stay positive, my husband doesn't appear to care what happens as his attitude is always 'oh whatever' not what I always want to hear which is why I log on here to be amongst people who do care and do understand. x

just hoping chelsea get through
she just come down an swapped mobiles
she took mine upstairs by mistake
she stressed cos she needs to find a new job
i stressed cos i cant move forward on iva until she has a new income amount for proposal
just thinking now what do i do if she dont get another job

Hi again Michael

Could you afford to do an IVA if your other half stays in her current job?

Liz

hi liz & lesley
i feel that it is me and me only carrying the stress at the moment an the football is my only release currently.
dont watch it every night but only important matches
plus i am the one doing her cv
applying online for her job searches
and helping her with her emails etc
an i really stressed

Its awful when you feel alone in things isn't it? My husband deals with things by pretending they aren't happening. As I said in my earlier post, he is very much of the view of "Let's wait and see what happens" or "It'll all be okay" but I know deepdown he is as stressed as I am about things but he is just trying not to let it all get to him. I do get very frustrated with him at times though. I just think to myself how does he know it'll all be okay? Say it isn't all okay? Grrr! Perhaps your other half is in denial about things at the moment? Its a very scary thing trying to tackle your problems. I intermittently suffer from mild depression and when I am on a downer, I can't be bothered thinking about anything and am quite happy to let everyone else take over. I know this sounds really selfish but when I am on a "downer", I just don't think too rationally.

At least you know you can come on this Forum and let off steam.

Liz

Try and make peace Michael and then concentrate on the footie..

Has it started?
What channel is it on, I am away in a hotel tonight and can't find it on any of the channels....[:)]

hi liz
agree with you wholeheartedly
she determined to leave her current job no matter what, she working notice and looking at the moment
i am behind her at the moment but dont know how long i will be able to handle the stress she got 7 more weeks on her notice, but i want to move forward on the iva

emma its on sky

no wonder I can't find it!!
No sky apart from sky news and sky one at this hotel[:(]

chelsea just scored

me and hubby would never speak, as he lives and breathes football!! I just live with it.. at least I know what he's up too!