Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 7:29 pm
Hi
I am angry, scared and confused & not able to manage any more.
i had been in debt while in uni but managed to dig myself out, fact i am polish and the money earned here has much bigger value back at home helped. since than i have been very cerfull and did not have any debts, managed to get some savings(on my polish investment funds).I worked hard over seven years getting from £3.5 ph waitres to modest 2k pm dreaming one day i could afford to buy house, stop wasting money on rent and have childern.
I met my husband husband 3 yrs ago and for long time didn't know about his debts. 18 mnth ago I forced confesion out of him & consolidated his debt in to one loan (23k+ppi+intrest, £31k outstanding as of today). Got married last September.
Recently i learned he made another 7k on cc and overdraft as he could not afford to pay his own debt and live on remainder of his wages. All that time I was covering our living expenses and paying the loan I took for the wedding. I am worried it will get me into debt, forget about risking the mortgage! I had a look & think iva would be best for him but how would that affect me? would the loan taken out for wedding on my account be calculated in? how they calculate how much he needs for living?
I am angry, scared and confused & not able to manage any more.
i had been in debt while in uni but managed to dig myself out, fact i am polish and the money earned here has much bigger value back at home helped. since than i have been very cerfull and did not have any debts, managed to get some savings(on my polish investment funds).I worked hard over seven years getting from £3.5 ph waitres to modest 2k pm dreaming one day i could afford to buy house, stop wasting money on rent and have childern.
I met my husband husband 3 yrs ago and for long time didn't know about his debts. 18 mnth ago I forced confesion out of him & consolidated his debt in to one loan (23k+ppi+intrest, £31k outstanding as of today). Got married last September.
Recently i learned he made another 7k on cc and overdraft as he could not afford to pay his own debt and live on remainder of his wages. All that time I was covering our living expenses and paying the loan I took for the wedding. I am worried it will get me into debt, forget about risking the mortgage! I had a look & think iva would be best for him but how would that affect me? would the loan taken out for wedding on my account be calculated in? how they calculate how much he needs for living?