Hi Cath
From the information you have provided it certainly seems likely that an IVA might be a sensible option for you to restructure your finances and offer a reasonable settlement to creditors. But it is equally important that you consider other options as well, such as bankruptcy proceedigns and Dect Management, so that the right solution can tailored to suit your circumstances.
At the moment you will feel that you are the only ones in the world that are in this position, but in reality there are many people affected by debt and I can certainly promise you that there is a solution out there for you.
Take advice directly from an insolvency practitioner as to your options, and the advantages, disadvantages and implications of each one. You will not need to make a decision immediately, although with the level of debt you are carrying I would not leave things too long.
Regards, Melanie Giles, Insolvency Practitioner