Almost there with plucking up the courage

[mike.s]

Thanks Melanie,
That does put my mind at rest (Hope you are feeling better now)
Cheers
Mike

[mike.s]

Hey guys,
How is everyone? Well slap bang right in the middle of the house move! Van rented for two days (changed to three, cause there is no way on this God's given Earth that we can get it all shifted today!!!!) Where in the heck does all this stuff come from, I mean the attic, whoaaa don't get me started on the attic, flippin heck, do we really need all this stuff???? Big boot sale on the way, no kids I mean it!
Big sigh of relief, house sale has gone through today
After a few hold ups, and fingers bitten to the bone the money will be there as from 1pm tomorrow (friday dec 7th) to give to creditors, just one to speak too. Huge thanks to Hywel on Melanies team, and there could be light at the end of the tunnel b4 Christmas. Feeling so good at the moment, real, real light at the end of the tunnel, just so, so want my life back! So want to be a good dad and husband again, put my life back into my family, they mean so much to me and I know I've not really been there for them, so hard when your heads been spinning for so long, sleep, ohhh sleep, big fluffy pillow, I must get a big fluffy pillow! That reminds of a very good movie, but no, that's not what this post is about! Actually had a real good talk with my mum tonight on the phone, mums know more than you think!! Just hope things will be sorted soon so I can try to repay her back for everything she has done. Moving into rented, strange the way it's gone as it's the son of a very good customer of mine I will be renting from. Fate anyone? I never used to believe in it but now I'm not so sure Anyway I'm going on a bit, just feel realy good right now, ok maybe it's the Tesco's own brand of lager kickin in, no honestly it's not that bad! Feelin real good at the moment, light at the end of a real dark tunnel seems to be fast approachin'.
Thanks Mel and team, and Hywel (how do you guys put those smilie face things on?) and a big thanks to eveyone on this forum! Ok I know I'm not out of the woods yet, but I haven't felt this good about myself for such a long time. Could this be a new start? I would be so grateful for a second chance! I wont mess this one up! Starting to feel like me again, really beginning to look forward to Christmas, my favourite time of the year! Muppet Christmas Carol, best movie ever!! Keeping that one for the light!!
Sorry to gone on guys, is anyone still there? Am I talking to myself? Ohh well not for the first time. You know? I think Grizzly Adams had the right idea!
Speak to you soon guys
Best wishes to all
Mike

[whichwaynow]

So happy for you Mike its great that things are looking up for you at last.

[mike.s]

Thanks whichwaynow,
feels like such a huge weight off my shoulders. In a bit of a daze right now. Great the cash is there (or will be in a few hours) but also sad to leave the home that meant so much in an important part of my childrens school days. But each part of life is just an adventure and tomorrow we face our new one, together! It is actually quite exciting, even though we are just renting, the house is bigger than the one at the moment, and we all have loads of ideas for each room, and there is a play room, which I have big plans for! Also we are renting from one of my customers (did I mention that? whoaa fate! it really worked out for us dude) so have got excellent future plans worked out short term rented, and hey who knows long term? whoaa one step at a time future positive dude.
Maybe Jamie can help with that!
Cheers guys, thanks for being there
Best wishes
Mike

[MelanieGiles]

Mike

Don't forget a house is just bricks and mortar build on a little plot of land. A home could be a tent in the middle of the desert - so long as you have your family around you. There is a huge difference between a house and a home, and having met you I am sure that you provide a wonderful, loving home for your wife and children. That, and clearing up your debts of course, is all that matters.

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[mike.s]

How right you are Mel, very wise words.
My family is everything to me, Protecting them is paramount, most of all from my own mistakes. But I have always, I hope, been there for them and so want to be in the future. Hopefully a second chance is on the horizon, and I am determined I will not mess this second chance up. We try to do our best but sometimes we slip, shouldn't crusify ourselves, but it so hard not to at times. I am so looking forward to Christmas, always have. It is the one time of the year you can lock yourself away and be the person you want to be. Well, with the help of some great friends on this forum for the first Christmas in a long time, I can finely be the person I strived to be for my family for so long, happy, very, very happy. And of course some silly games along the way, charades anyone? Ohh come on it's a great game!
Cheers guys
Mike

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[aguise]

Hi Mike
I too am so glad to see how changed your posts are, and how much better you are feeling. I wish you and your family all the very best in your new home, have a wonderful xmas all. [:D]

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[debbiw]

Mikem I am so pleased for you. It's so nice to hear a happy ending. You can now get back to being yourself, and looking after your family. Well done!

[Lisa2009]

I agree, its brilliant to see how your posts have changed.
I really wish you and your family all the very best in your new home and new life.
Stay positive and keep smiling xxx

mrs skint but almost free

[emma_t]

Great to hear thing are going well for you mike[:D]

You have been through such a tough time while always putting your family first and worrying about them. You sound like such a great bloke and a great dad, and I am sure your family are so proud of you.

Glad to hear the house is nice and you should have a very happy christmas there[:)]

Hope its not to cold on the markets at the moment (or wet)[:(]

Best wishes to you and your family and I hope everything is sorted very soon for you
Emma x

PS the smiles should be on the left of the message box you type message in - just click on whichever you want and they will appear in your message when you post new reply - go on give it a go you know you want to!!!

[louisa.s]

Mike - just wanted to say I'm glad the house move went/going ok!!! It's never easy when you discover you have more stuff than you ever imagined!!! but as Melanie says is true. A house is just bricks and mortar. It is what happens inside and the people who live in it that make it a home. I remember when we fell of the housing ladder and how scary that was - not having anything we owned but to be honest you forget about it after a while and it becomes your home - for you and your family.

Just also wanted to say what fantastic taste in films you've got!!! Muppets Christmas Carol rocks and I'm 30!

I do hope you and your family enjoy Christmas in your new home and raise a glass to new starts!!!

[Skippy]

Hi Mike, I'm glad the move has been going well. I hope you have more luck with the van than Dave did when we moved last month - he hit 2 cars when we were on the way to the new house! Luckily no-one was hurt so I can take the mickey out of him - not that I'd drive a 7.5 tonne truck!

I know what you mean about how much stuff you have - I couldn't believe we fitted so much into a one bedroom flat! We had thrown a lot of stuff out and we still filled the truck!

I'm glad things are looking up for you - you are a good man and your wife and family must be so proud of you.

Good luck in your new home x

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[lily]

Hi Mike

I am so pleased that you have moved on to feeling so positive and taking steps out of your misery, as Melanie said, whereever your family come together is home and believe me my place was in such a mess when we moved, we have been happy, even with the nails in our stairs, we dug the garden together and laid fresh new turf, a bit at a time, put down a stone path, we rent too but its home, the important thing is we laid memories for the future. My kids will not remember the christmas presents they get this year but they will remember the laughs, my son flying up the garden with a dodgy barrow and it stopped and he flew over it and landed beautifully, ha, I can see it now, and dancing in the garden when we had finished, thats what is important. It wouldnt have been half as much fun with a brand new barrow, or everything lovely right off.

Well you have really cheered me up, your thread will help so many more feeling as you did, and they are out there, too afraid, isolated and alone. I am really pleased for you and your family, you will make a go of it, dont worry too much about making it work, just relax and it will. Try to take one day at a time, I sometimes think youre trying to be superdad, superman. You have had a tough time, try to give yourself realistic limits and give your body and mind time to catch up.

Love and best wishes,


lily

[mike.s]

Hey guys,
How is everyone? Thank you all so much for your kind replies, means more than you will ever know (still can't see those flipin smilie things, I saw them once, but they aren't there now) Anyway finely moved, and finely got the computer back up and running, what a nightmare, so don't want to do this again for a while! But the money is now there and (I don't want to say too much at the moment, cause I don't know if I should) but things are looking very bright at the moment Cheers Hywel, you are wonderful. Feeling great, had a lovely family evening, loads of silly laughs. Looking very Christmassy at the moment, got the tree up, deccies, candles, advent calenders, very nice fireplace with lights on it, Christmas music (saving Muppet Christmas Carol, till fully out of the tunnel) and a wonderful warm feeling, ahhhh nice:-) Not felt like this for a long time. Bit of a way to go yet, but looking good, just in time for my favourite time of the year, and this year I can pay for it myself Speak soon again. Thank you to all, and to all a good night.
Best wishes
Mike