Thanks guys, it was so many years ago now its not something I think about now but it shows that sometimes you have to just make a decision and go with it regardless to save your own sanity[:)]
Be positive & look after yourself, there are more important things in life than debts....
I still feel bitter re my ex husband and the wedding situation if I think about it too much, I try not to dwell on it. I will always blame him for me being in an IVA and pulling the funds from my daughters wedding plans because of him being so selfish. We do have to move on and although the feelings are always there I can cope with them until I see him lording it up with a new car and the kids tell me he's got a new kitchen and this and that....the kids have all forgiven him and go around there again now, it hurts but eh ho that's life I guess x
IVA final payment left the bank on the 26th January 2013...looking forward to a debt free future.
Having gone through a divorce myself, i was very bitter about what she got and i didnt and how i was left in debt, after a while i stopped been bitter and went for an IVA to sort everything irrespective of what i got and dint and put it down to experience, but most of all she was out of my life for good, 4 years on from the seperation, and have a completeley new life with TWINS, getting married in December, life couldnt be better
It's been a long time since my divorce (been married 21 years second time around), but I remember how civilised it was! We decided that he would keep the house and buy me out, the furniture I was paying for I would take, and we sorted out the rest between us very amicably. No kids fortunately, so my experience was very good - the main problem I had was with my parents! They caused me more stress than my ex did!
All water under the bridge now, and apart from having financial difficulties, life couldn't be better! On the other hand though - if I hadn't, I wouldn't have met all you lovely people!
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
I believe everything happens for a reason - I too went through a messy divorce,ended up homeless etc. If I hadn't I would have never found the love of my life [:I]
Like you say, all water under the bridge, we all move on to better things and even being in debt has brought us new friends via this forum.
