Baby news :) & Sad news :(

[MrsKnight]

Thanks u langerbridge, I'm not sure we got a real answer from my mum, they just wrapped her up in her solied blanket & took her in the end.

Well mum came home yesterday, she has to take a load of medication for the ulcers for 8 weeks, then go back in in 6 weeks for another endoscopy, then they will decided what to do about the large nasty ulcer from there. She is already saying she is not going back ever! Mum also has a MRI scan in 10 days for her legs, which I can see her refusing to go to that to. The memory clinic phoned & I'm having to delay that as I think it's all just abit much right now.
I've told dad that I'm happy to take them for the appointments, but I'm having to take a step back from battling with her to go to them. I've got me n bump to think about & at the rate I'm going I will finish up in hospital my self.

Thank u for all your support & I can start getting back to normal now, touch wood!

I will be back to my usual posting plus Im having a few problems with GT that I will post on the forum as I'm getting quite cross with them now. X

[kallis3]

Glad your mum is home Lyns but even though you need to try and get her to go the appointments, you're not going to be able to force her to.

You need to look you after you and the new little one now, especially with the problems you have had in the past.

[MrsKnight]

I know Jan & I'm back to concentrating on me n bump now. We are going to tell the boys soon, just so they have a understanding of why mummy gets so tired n may need alittle help round the house, & to not try to stress me out to much over the holidays! It's not going to be a easy 6 weeks with having to take it easy!
Hubby is off for 2 weeksin the middle & they can go to football school for a week at half price, which they will love! Heads running all over the place & can't decided what to do first! In time boys will have to go back to sharing. So we need to make a fuss about it as I don't think the eldest will be happy! So we are going to decorate the room (needs doing) & get some bunk beds & storage so they have more space. Looking to put a tv in the room (got a spare one!) too & at xmas look for a deal on a xbox with kinect as a joint main pressy from us & get family to chip in.
We already have a xbox so the kinect will be in the living room! But I know they will love a x box n tv in their room. Would not be able to do this without all the offers we have had with stuff for bump! X

Mum will go to the appointments, I think she does understand that had it not been for our actions & the blood transfusion, we would of lost her. She is taking her many meds & dad has said to her, if u take these there is hope u won't need anything more after the endoscopy, fingers crossed x

[kallis3]

Glad she will see sense and go to the appointments, all this is a stress that you can do without at the moment.

At least the decorating will give you something to focus on other than your parents and I'm sure the boys will be thrilled with the idea of a new brother or sister.

[langerbridge]

It can take a shock like your mum has had & they see that perhaps they need medical help. I remember my gma 5years ago refused to go into hospital despite collapsing twice. Let's just say when I turned up she went under protest. I lived 20 miles from her so she knew she wasn't well when I left work early to see her. She ended up on ICU & her whole outlook changed. Pity last year wasn't as sucessful. Any how Lyns you care for yourself & she will 'behave'!

[Pandy]

HI Lyns,
Only just seen this, me bad not looked in the friends section for a while, many congratulations on the 'bump' when is it due, I am so excited for you.
Sorry to hear about your mum, must be hard work for you and your Dad. Try not to stress to much it wont do you any good, I know that is easy to say and difficult to do.

[MrsKnight]

Hi langerbridge, thank u I'm sure mum will "behave" I love the phrase I use it alot these days!

No worries pandy I've not been on the forum for a week or so with everything going on. Bump was quite a surprise! I'm due on the 27 January so I'm around 14 weeks now. It already feels like a life time being pregnant! But that's mainly because docs n midwife & family don't want me doing to much or getting stressed! I hate not being busy & I've lists as long as my arms that I wana do around the house & I've got to wait for someone else to do them or help me, very frustrating!!!! Hope yr well x

[kallis3]

Just chill Lyns!! We want a happy ending.

[Shining]

Take it easy Lyns, rest as much as you can and stay calm, easier said than done but it's not forever. Keep yourself and little one safe x

[MrsKnight]

Hi all sorry not been on for a week or so, it's been a busy time with the boys off school & looking after mum. Thought i would pop on n update u all.
I'm coming up to be 16 weeks pregnant & starting to look n feel it! I had another little problem at 14 weeks but all ok & everything seems to be settling down. I see the consultant next week, I hope it will make me feel abit better & more confident. I'm still having my positive everything is going to be fine & a normal pregnancy, then I get days where I get flash backs & feel terrified & uncertain of what may or may not happen.
I'm over the moon with the help I have been offered with things for bump, ands it's all the large expensive things like cots, car seats & a pram. A friend dropped of a bag full of baby toys this weekend & it all hit me again that I'm going to have a baby!
The boys want it to be a boy! & Im not bothered as long as it's healthy & we get to full term. Obviously with having 2 boys everyone is going on about it being a girl. Which would be lovely as it would be refreshing to buy Girly things!
I go for my 20 week scan in September so the question of finding out or not is upon us! I'm really undecided as what to do, part of me would like to keep on guessing, but then part of me wants to know so I can buy clothes etc!

[kallis3]

Glad everything is going ok Lyns. How is your mum?

[MrsKnight]

I wish I could say getting better Jan. I've had to walk away from it got a couple of days as I was just finding it to upsetting n frustrating.
Mums only 5ft 5 n weighed just over 6stone before this recent illness. But she is losing weight rapidly & looks terrible. Her mental state is rapidly getting worse now too, dad & I are both shocked at the changes we are seeing in her now over these past few weeks.
We got her to the hospital for the endoscopy & she agreed n was prepared, then just would not let them do it. She had to not ear or drink for minuim of 4 hours b4 n dad had to watch her like a hawk, as mum tried to eat n drink. In her confusion mum thought he was trying to be horrible to her.
On returning home from the hospital, she said "Ooooo it was awful that thing going down my throat" but she never even got to that part. Mum Cant even remember being in hospital or anything that happened to her. We are trying to watch her toliet activities as she is hiding her pants n washing them in secret, so we are not sure if there is still bleeding going on, which the endoscopy would of found. We see the consultant in a fee weeks so will see what he says. The memory clinic are coming to visit her tomorrow.
Dad went to visit the GP that came out when she refused to go in the ambulance & asked what to do & what would happen if it she bleed again. The GP was straight talking about it & said "she would not survive a second bleed like that & was very lucky to survive that one". If only mum new, understood & believed us, which would make caring for her alot easier.

[kallis3]

Sorry Lyns, just caught up with this again!

Sorry that she's not any better. It does rather suggest that she is still bleeding if she is washing her pants.

You can't force her to do anything but it is a pity you can't manage to convince her.

You do well to walk away though - you and the little one are your number one priority at the moment.

[MrsKnight]

Hello!!!! I'm still here! I'm so sorry I've not been around, but I think for those on my FB will understand why. I'm posting at this un godly hour as I've eaten to much chocolate watching a film so now I'm wide awake!

What a rough couple of weeks I've had & I really feel like I'm having a rough time of it. I was hoping with this pregnancy there might be a chance of a straight forward one, no, nothing ever seems to be straight forward with me!
I'm 18 weeks today & I've been in A&E twice in less than 2 weeks, the emotional turmoil the hubby & I have gone through has been just horrid. I saw my consultant just over a week ago, & I'm do glad the midwife picked her for me. She spent 40 minutes with me & we went through my past problems & she was just brilliant. I had been in A&E on one occasion before meeting her. My last scan shows I have low lying placenta slightly covering the cervix, which is what they are thinking my problems are. I asked what to do & was told to try not to worry & to only come in if the bleeds go red. So along with my history of premature labors & delivery & I have anti m antibodies in my blood, I'm high risk! We are hoping by 20 wks scan that the placenta should be moving away from the cervix as bump grows.
That evening what happens; red loss & lots of it. We really felt, right this is going wrong now. Hubby was brilliant but I knew he was scared. We were in A&E for what seemed like forever, finally got checked over & as consultant had scanned me that day & it had stopped by the time they got to me, they picked up bumps heart beat & sent me home on bed rest, there was little they could do.
I'm taking things very easy, first few days I daren't do anything, I was even afraid to get out of bed. Things have calmed down & I'm pottering etc, hubby won't let me lift, Hoover or anything. We are both afraid I will end up miles away & hospital bound again. Its not easy as the school Hols n I can't do much with my boys, I'm just glad hubby has been off work for 2 weeks n had access to the car.
Hubby has been cleaning n I've had him painting! We have decided to mentally prepare for the possibility of further complications arising. So we have been sorting the boys room out as they are going to be sharing again. Plus the MIL is getting a new suite so we are getting her old one which we are excited about as we hate ours & it's so uncomfortable & embarrassing just to top it off!

Not much improvement on my Mum, but Ive been resting up so not had much involvement over past few weeks. We went to see the consultant yesterday & they still need to see how her ulcer is doing, but again she has refused a endoscopy but has agreed to a barium meal x ray, we will see when that comes through wether that happens or not!
Mum is a worry, she only weighed in at 5st 8 n has lost weight since it happened.

I have been a bit with drawn in myself so have not looked in on the forum, the consultant n GP think it's in my interest & best for the pregnancy that I start back on anti depressants, & I have to agree with them. The consultant wants me to get through this pregnancy with my sanity in tact! & she used the word sanity in the letter to my GP!

I hope yr all well & thank u for all your kind words on FB, it really means alot. Boys back at school soon so u will find me on here alot! Especially if I end up on bed rest in hospital somewhere!

Love n hugs xxxx

[kallis3]

You certainly are having a rough time aren't you Lyns? Hopefully things will calm down now - each week is a step nearer the end.

Hope you can get something sorted with your mum as well - that's not a good weight to be and she shouldn't still be losing weight.

You take care of yourself, don't stress about anything and don't stress about the forum either - it will still be here when the baby arrives!!! You and bump are the ones to worry about now.