Hi patch and welcome to the forum
I have a number of clients with children in private education, so long as this can be justified. And of course you can pay your mother in law to look after the little one - but do be aware that she will need to account for her earnings to HMRC if she exceeds the minimum level of earnings.
Creditors will look very closely at this expenditure, which does need to be proportionate to your earnings and the disposable income that you are offering to them. Have you tried to claim Child Tax Credit to assist with nursery and childminding fees? And how much do you take home each month between you?
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