day from hell!!

[jane.l]

Ooo thank you soo much! And to everyone!

[pippa]

Sorry jane I meant fantastic that Andy has arranged some assitance not fantastic you think you might get a BRO[:I]

[jane.l]

Ooo that made me laugh! (the bit about not thinking a BRO was fantastic!)

I need a good laugh, its been a long time since I did!!!!!!

[lily]

I really meant it, I have a small contigency fund and would be happy to donate 20 pounds towards petrol. I lost my mother last christmas, unexpectedly and suddenly. The day before she died my sister and I took her out for christmas lunch and put some flowers on my fathers grave. She was laughing on the porch as I left and said be sure to text when you get home as there was a hell of a fog, I did and she didnt text me back. That day will always be precious to me. She was my best friend in the whole world. I couldnt bare to think that Jane will not be able to see her stepmom before its too late. Its making me cry at the thought of it.



lily

[Lisa2009]

Its threads like this that make you see that although we dont know each other personally, we have realy found out who our friends are.
Andy that was such a nice thing for you to do

[catullus]

I think that the post should be allowed to stand as a reminder of the prejudice, ignorance and over simplification that so many people apply to the issue of debt.

You have to have followed this board for quite a while to know the reality of the fear that debt can create, the consistency of the stories and the desparation in the posts is quite genuine.

idiot poster with his or her 2 posts clearly has a lot to learn.

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[Soulgrowth]

We should all exercise a moral responsibilty for our debt, however for every person that posts to this forum there is a human story behind and so one cannot generalise about people who are in debt, only search for fair solutions. Indeed, I have a feeling that Andy may be collating some of those stories.

However much as I admire Andy's stance though with the offer of financial support I do think that the ethos of this forum should be clearly maintained in that it is here, as I have always perceived it, to offer emotional and psychological support ... and not financial. I am sure that we could all make a case for needing a bit of financial help.

If this forum is managing to generate income in some way then might I suggest that some kind of debt charity is nominated, or perhaps monies donated to the Citizens Advice Bureau (Are they a registered charity?) who seem to provide valuable help for a lot of people in this forum.



Debbie



www.babynamings.co.uk

www.soulgrowth.co.uk

[pippa]

What did I miss!!!

[admin]

you missed nothing Pippa... just some ignorant idiot looking for a moment of fame by posting rubbish on this forum and we would prefer to ignore it. Spammers come in all shapes and sizes!
regards, admin.

[lily]

Not sure Pippa, I am a little confused myself.

lily

[Dominic]

you only missed a lost village idiot

[jane.l]

Have I missed something? I had to nip out!

I do not want to cause trouble or receive “special” treatment , if this is sending the wrong message out, and that is not what the forum is about.

I will be ok, like someone wrote, we could all do with some financial assistance or we would not be on this website in the first place! Hahaha

So, thanks to everyone and especially Lily and Andy for their kind words, but I will muddle through, I am sure other people have it worse than me!

I'll just say to my dad that my car has a problem, thats why I cannot visit! Its not really a lie, as such!

[Soulgrowth]

Andy (a few postings above) very kindly made the offer of a some financial help to Jane.

I think that it is important to maintain the ethos of this forum otherwise we are in danger of introducing potential corruption into it. I am not sure that offers of financial help to forum members is conducive to the future of the Forum ... but I would be very interested to hear what others, especially admin, think about this.

You will manage Jane, we all know you will ... and we know that because, like all of us who post here, you have faced your fears and recognised your moral responsibility to address your financial difficulties ... and, for that, ALL of us here deserve a huge cyber space pat on the back. [:)]

Debbie



www.babynamings.co.uk

www.soulgrowth.co.uk

[Soulgrowth]

P.S
Jane ... why don't you just be honest with your Dad ... there's is absolutely NOTHING to be ashamed of, you may well be surprised by his response. We are all allowed to make mistakes in life so long as we learn from them and use them to grow ... and that is not to say that we have all made mistakes, I know in my case my debt was accrued predominantly through bringing up four young children on my own over a number of years.

As a parent I would hate to think that my children couldn't confide in me if they were experiencing financial difficulties. Indeed,my 24 year old son approached me yesterday with what could amount to a big problem and, through some of the advice on this forum, I was able to guide him to some possible solutions about banking etc. ... thus the Forum reaches out even further [:)]

Debbie

www.babynamings.co.uk

www.soulgrowth.co.uk

[lily]

I agree with what you say soulgrowth. I can understand what a difficult position Jane has been put into.

I was just thinking that Jane would really want to be with her father, well all kinds of things came into my mind. I am quite sensitive about the subject of death and seeing the dying person just now. I am no saint or anything, I just wanted to help. I wish now that I hadnt posted but hindsight is wonderful, right?

As for the ass hole that posted earlier, not worth the effort or time to type.

I wish you and your family the best Jane, I hope everything works out for you soon.

lily