last year at xmas, after the appalling way i was treated by my IP, i had paid over £1.5k in up front fees,which i was told would be returnable then found out they were not, i was at a very low time in my life especially at xmas and no presents for the children the forum very kindly donated £100 of gift vouchers, i was truly grateful, it felt like a million pounds to me!
i have now been a member for over a year on this forum and give my spare time as a thank you to the help the forum has given me, i have also been lucky enough to win blogg of the month, which i think is a really good way of encouraging people to write out everything to help each other.
jane is in dire need and i know how she feels, it is hard to tell someone of your situation and even harder when you have kept it quiet for so long, i can fully understand her reasons at this time not to burden her father.
however, the gripe was not about the offerings of the vouchers or aimed at jane in particular from a certain poster earlier today, which i might add i did answer and my response has also been removed, the forum has been a god send to many posters and a life line to others, i think andy's and lily's gesture where appropriate and i myself would willingly donate, you know who the genuine people are on here, and especially those who post all the time, i understand also what soul growths postings are about, i am sure andy working along side with admin could truly see a case where financial assistance was needed was appropriate, i agree we don't want it to look like those joining that it is a forum aimed at hardship cases as we would all fit into that criteria, but sometimes if you have the means to support someone who is in dire need then these one off offerings if available could be made, andy could have contacted her by e-mail and none of us would have been the wiser, i never kept mine secret, but think it shows us what this forum is all about, we have all become a family, and i am sure if anyone else is ever in need desperately the forum will do the same again, as melanie said in her post "I think that everyone understands that the forum is not a charity, however there are occasions when it is just appropriate to do the right thing.
its hard for me to try and explain fully what the gesture meant to me, at xmas, and those who were posters then will know fully my nightmare.
andy i think you do a good job on the forum and its such a shame that one first time poster can throw such a spanner in the works and thanks admin for deleting that awful post, i am really glad jane didn't see it although not aimed at her but know she has had postings off someone who knew her before and she nearly stopped posting because of this.
all the best to all of you
kerri
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