Hiya
Just wanted to say, there are two sides to this coin. Yes it can be argued that nowhere else is this DLA taken into account. However, sometimes you pay something towards your debts with some of it, I certainly did. It doesnt take away the disability but its yours to use as you please.
My thinking is,
You have to remember noone else other than those in your shoes has an iota of what its like living with a disability or caring for someone with one. Life can get very serious sometimes and plans, well.... forget them.
If an IVA is ever going to work in these circumstances then you have to make your IP aware of the variable rollercoaster ride that is normality for you or dont do it. In my case I told my IP, it aint gonna work if you cant allow for this, that and the other. Plus next year, it might be that, other and this, and the next well... we might be facing something else, ie having to travel a fifty mile round trip to school at least twice a term. So if youre going to cut me to the quick then I am quickly going to put this phone down. You dont know the plot and I am still a learner myself.
If youre already in an IVA then you must put this to your IP. Its quite easy when youre stressed to forget the big things never mind the details.
You will be under enough stress if something unexpected happens as it is, without worrying about how on earth youre going to afford it all. All this even before the thoughts of quality of life (for the carer as well as the sufferer) has even begun to enter ones head.
If these things cannot be met under IVA conditions, another way might be better found. There is an answer to every problem, it just might not be the one we wanted. Mine certainly wasnt.
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freelili on Wed Jul 23, 2008 3:11 pm, edited 1 time in total.