That is exactly what happened in my case, it was included in my income but offset so I kept it. I couldnt have done the IVA otherwise because I need the money in order to cope with not only the extra things needed but the unexpected, knowing full well these would crop up. I spoke with 3 IP.s one told me I couldnt expect them to take anything into consideration, the other when through all of the extra expenditure, with a very sharp intake of breath, the final one was only too happy to let things be offset with a very understanding attitude. I put the phone down on the first, stood firm with the second until he totally pissed me off with a little snigger, adding and you knew this when you took out the loans of course? Yes I did but did I forsee losing my job? I dont think so.
The really important point I was trying to make was be firm, not everyone is going to understand, how can they? Some dont want to and others dont care, they want to propose an IVA and will try to convince you its all your fault, its not your fault you have extra needs. If youre not happy, dont go there or with them. I guess it was easier for me as I had no assets to lose, I could have gone BR but I didnt want to. When faced with debt stress its so easy to just panic and 'think' yourself into a stupid budget, then stay awake after caring all day until stupid o'clock hoping nothing unexpected happens. Thats my main concern for people who dont find this site are torn apart with debt and still trying to care for others, its just too much.
To be honest, I have never had to fight for DLA, thank goodness but I sure have had to fight for just about everything else, with text book readers who know nothing of 24/7 care, they only do it from nine to five on weekdays, if at all. There is no retirement at the end of it all either. I wouldnt change a thing but it could have been made so much easier by those in 'the know'. Thats a flippin joke in itself.
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freelili on Fri Jul 25, 2008 12:20 am, edited 1 time in total.