jane i can understand what you are going through and you certainly are not a wimp or pathetic, the phone calls and letters do beat you down, i agree wait til your hubby gets home and at least you will have each other for moral support, don't be talked into anything and just say you will refer back to your ip, remember that person on the other end of the telephone is just that another person doing his / her chosen job, what can they do to you at the end of the day, try and rise above them and don't let them see they have got to you, be firm and polite if they become nasty just say i am now ending the phonecall and put the phone down,
i know it is easy for me to say but we have all been there and dread that call or letter, i hope things turn around for you soon and you start to feel better.
good luck with the call
kerri
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