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Post by kallis3 » Sun Feb 28, 2010 9:42 am
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No one knows about mine and that's the way I want it to stay!
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Post by debtfree-wannabee » Sun Feb 28, 2010 10:20 am
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My hubbys brother just went BR so we watched it happen because of personal debt. We weren't in the position to help at all ourselves.

I thought we could avoid an IVA and BR by organising a payment plan with all creditors ourselves but it has gotten too much for us now.

Now we have seen somene else go through the process and have seen the relief on their faces and how they look younger and less haggered - it gives us hope for the future. They have managed holidays still (not expensive ones but they never had expensive ones anyway)
When I was younger I did what I knew - now I know better I do better!

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Post by Cath » Sun Feb 28, 2010 10:25 am
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I guess we too used to 'look' well off. You never know what's going on behind closed doors!
7 year IVA completed in December 2016 - there is light at the end of that tunnel
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Post by Andy1964 » Sun Feb 28, 2010 10:37 am
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When you're living a financial lie then it becomes too easy to pretend all is ok on the outside when you know inside everything is a mess and getting messier.
If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

Funds paid to date accepted as F&F 16th August 2013, the wait for completion begins.
Wait over....certificate recieved 3rd May 2014
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Post by kallis3 » Sun Feb 28, 2010 10:57 am
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We could spend for England - exotic holidays and new cars plus clothes (even when I didn't need them)

Fortunately, in one way, hubby's ill health means that we can get round the holidays and spending loads on cars (he has a motability car) so it's not awkward for me.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
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Post by kallis3 » Sun Feb 28, 2010 11:32 am
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My parents would not understand at all, neither would work.

I prefer to keep between us and our forum friends.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
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Post by country girl » Mon Mar 01, 2010 9:11 pm
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Like you Jan I never want people to know, my mum would not understand and it would worry her.
I wish I had lots to show for my debts but I have'nt.We did have holidays abroad, Turkey was the last place we went in 2008. I have the excuse of job uncertainties at the moment. I would never tell Hubby's family as they have very strong views about people being in debt.
Plus I am still ashamed that I am in this postion and always will be.
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Post by Shining » Mon Mar 01, 2010 9:16 pm
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I think when my IVA is over I'll be able to talk more freely about it, why I think like that I'm not sure but I'll have re-educated myself in respect of finances and sure I will be more confident.
IVA final payment left the bank on the 26th January 2013...looking forward to a debt free future.
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Post by kallis3 » Mon Mar 01, 2010 9:20 pm
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I can speak quite freely about it - I just mention my stepkids!

My parents would not understand at all. Hubby's parents have been gone for a long time, but I know his brother wouldn't be sympathetic.
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