Hi there Newstart - you have taken the first steps to resolving your difficulties and that it sometimes the hardest part.
Looking at your circumstances, it seems to me that it is only you who has a debt problem, as your partner ought to be able to manage the repayments on such low debts. An IP will generally look at your respective take-home earnings, and the ratio in which they are earned - so as you earn 60% of the overall income, you should pay 60% of the overall shared household expenditure, leaving your partner to shoulder the balance. Hopefully they will have sufficient to deal with their debts outside of any debt management or insolvency process, leaving you to offer some money to your creditors on an ongoing basis - either in an DMP, IVA or bankruptcy procedure.
You have taken the right step to write to your creditors informing them of your situation. It is important to maintain contact with your creditors, who will respect you for this. Now you should seek more specific advice from an insolvency practitioner about all of the options available to you and their advantages, disadvantages and implications.
Good luck!
Regards, Melanie Giles, Insolvency Practitioner for over 20 years.
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