Feel free to chat whenever you want to Duff - that is what this forum is all about and you will find many friends who want to help and support you.
And don't worry about your eldest son. My step son left school at 16 beacuse he hated school, and just wanted to earn some money. At the age of 23 he realised that this was a silly move (he is quite bright!), and decided to go back to school to do his "A" levels which then culminated in him going to university and gaining a 1st class honours degree and a prize!
There will be time aplenty for your boys to catch up at a time when you can afford to help - and there is always nightschool in between
Regards, Melanie Giles, Insolvency Practitioner for over 20 years.
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