Funeral Troubles

[Moneystinks]

Really sorry to read your thread. I hope you and your family are okay and I will be thinking of you all. I will chat with my sis who works in a family law firm and see what she says in relation to the children and benefits etc. She may not be able to help you further but it is worth asking. Big hugs all round and may god bless you all XX

[angela18]

Hope everything goes ok for you.. been thinking about you all night.. life is so cruel isn't it!

[kieser]

Hi People,just arrived back from funeral etc etc (horrific experience)down to practical things,my partner still in plymouth with the kids,had social around today to evaluate wether they were capable of living alone 17 & 14 yr olds,no problems there but the hurdle is wether they can stay in the house which is 3 bedrooms(answer in a couple of weeks-dont know what we will do if they say no.Kids will have lost there mum & the only house theyve lived in all their lives.

No will-we are having to go for probate to handle the kids £50,000 ins money left by their mum.
probate office have just told us this could take months(£3,500 funeral bil to land on our doorstep this week),we dont understand as rachel is her sister.The woman was wittering on about the father etc etc.He dosent even exist to us.

Ive just phoned my IVA company to ask about this £50,000 because it will be paid to us & then taken directly from our account & put in trust for the kids.(their not sure that we can do that)even though the money will comme in & go straight back out again.

Then i asked about the youngest lads(14)child benefit because the other one being 17 it cant be paid to her until Oct(she turns 18.)They need an adults bank to pay it into.Yet again IVA company arent sure about this.

Then i asked if we could perhaps have 1 payment break as we are supporting those kids until their benefits are sorted.Iva once again not sure anout that.

THEY WILL HAVE TO GET BACK TO ME ON IT ALL.Thanks for nothing,weve been put into this situation & will fight tooth & nail for those kids & my IVA company couldnt give a toss.
Sorry guys this situation is like living hell & you try & do whats best but without a damn will your fighting everywhere you turn.

[Julie]

Oh Kieser - so sorry. Thankfully the kids have you fighting their corner. Keep on at your IP - are you speaking direct to your IP and not some assistant?

My thoughts are with you.

[Viki.W]

Kieser, what a terrible situation. I'm sure it is in their best interests to get this sorted. Those kids are more important so you concentrate on them. I'm sorry I can't offer you any advice, could your solicitor help at all? Viki X

[kieser]

Just had IVA company ring me back,we can handle the £50,000 ins as long as we forward a copy of the probate(letters of administration) &
all bank account statements that show the money coming in & the money going out to the kids trust funds.

We can handle the lads child benefit as long as we show bank statements of the money coming in & going out.

She then asked me if we were supporting the kids,to which i replied as much as we can in our situation.so they are going to stick a expenditure sheet in the post for us to complete but we have to support this with proof of everything.Unfortunately when we have done food shopping etc etc we havent kept receipts,so she said put in a covering letter.

[Julie]

At least they got back to you - hopefully everything will work out as best as it can in what must be an awful situation.

[Viki.W]

That sounds positive to me. I hope you can get this all sorted and I wish you all the best. Keep posting as there will always be someone here to help and offer support. Viki X

[kieser]

This is directed to homer2418.
I picked up the sf200 forms you advised me about but im trying to find out if this £50,000 is classed as the deceased assets.
If it is then the funeral payment from the social fund has to be paid back from any assets.

[freelili]

Thinking of you in the terrible time. All I can think of to say is, I hope everyone involved, be it IP, social services, etc, etc. Stand by and help you through this.

I really hope you dont have to fight your way through it as is so often the case.

Youre one hell of a strong guy, your family are lucky to have you. Please stay strong, everyone on here will be thinking, praying and hoping for you.

Good luck with everything.

[facingittogether]

i just want to say that i am thinking of you all too!

it is such a worrying and terrible time for you all!

it is such a blessing that those poor kids have you and your partner, you are doing an amazing job!

hope everything gets sorted!

love barb x

[kieser]

Just had the housing people on the phone,

The lady who came today has been back to her supervisor & discussed the case & said she wants to see this case through,Basically


The problem we face is the 2 kids being allowed to stay in a 3 bedroom house.
She is going to put in her report that they should remain in the house because

family will be popping in to insure the kids are ok (ie 3rd bedroom needed.)
That it would harm the kids further if after just losing their mum they will lose the house theyve grown up in.
Schools etc nearby.

So it sounds like shes on our side (makes a pleasant change dosent it).

[freelili]

Thats brilliant news, she is a star that woman. Its going to be very hard for those children as it is.

Lets hope the other matters are dealt with as efficiently, easing your load a little.

Good luck, still thinking and praying for you all.

Love

[rockbottom]

Hi Kieser

so sorry that you had had to go through the hell you have,i hope you and your family are ok, it sounds very positive about the children and their home i really hope it goes their way, the lady from housing sounds very caring and can obviously see the need for them to stay in an environment they are used to and also one which obviously holds some wonderful memories for them, im also pleased that your iva company seem to be helping you now, hope everything works out ok.

Keep posting, there is always someone here if you are feeling down or need some advice.

rockbottom

[aguise]

Hi there again.
Glad to hear that you have the support of the housing lady. I hope all goes well for all of you, the children must be so relieved to have your fantastic support. I hope all settles well for them the loss is enough for such young people to deal with.
Keep us posted . xx Ang