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Post by michael.t47 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 12:07 am
she got 4 weeks left in employmentnthen no income looking for jobs but having no luck so far
scary that from end of month month she will have no income
cant sort iva out till we know whats happening
 
 

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Post by michael.t47 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 12:13 am
i just love you all
 
 

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Post by freelili » Sat Jun 07, 2008 2:19 am
HI Micheal

Just a bit concerned about you at the moment, I also understand how youre feeling right now.... I felt just like you did a little over a year ago. I just couldnt see the point of carrying on. I didnt feel I had any use at all, my whole world had fallen down and it wae all my fault. I went out and decided I couldnt come back, I thought this was my last day, I kind of felt sad about that but living was just so much harder. Then I thought about my family and children.... Would they ever know how much I love them, perhaps I could write and tell them I do, what about the rest of my family, will they say, oh well she has gone lets get on with our lives... would they feel that, no. What would I be leaving behind. So much grief and unhappiness.... Please think about this, I am so upset already at how you are feeling and desperately want to reach out and say, you can get through this. Its so hard on a couple when there is this horrible debt stress, you want to blame yourself, you feel you have let everyone down but you havent if you can pull yourself up and at least give tomorrow a try.

I am asking you to at least give tomorrow a try?

Please??
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Post by freelili » Sat Jun 07, 2008 2:24 am
Youre not weak for feeling this way. It takes so much guts to admit to it. Very few people take their own lives without mentioning it. Youre really desperate, I know that. To the world you just one man, but to your family you are the world, dont take that away from them.

Just give tomorrow a try, phone your GP practise and ask if you can see a nurse a doctor, if you cant say it out loud, write it down, please.... Please give tomorrow a try..
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Post by angela18 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 7:04 am
Ah Michael hope you're feeling a little more positive today.. me and my hubby were at breaking point when we confronted our debt situation. I had told him we wouldn't be together by the following christmas.

One morning i phoned him at work in tears.. (we had been keeping our money worries away from each other) I told him we needed to sort our money out whether it meant selling the house and splitting up or facing up to debt and seek professional advise. Then Voila I found this site.

We are back to our old selves, happy and content (skint as well) but no secrets, hubby has no overtime now so we see more of each other and things couldn't be better!!

Hope you are ok, I have MSN and if you ever need a shoulder to cry on feel free.. (not literally[:I])

Chin up.. hopefully it will all work out in the end.
Ang.. 13 payments in.. WOW, thats over 20% paid!! http://angela18.blogs.iva.co.uk/ well here we go

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Post by michael.t47 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 10:07 am
thanks all, just got up feeling tearful but looking forward. she went to work this morning and never even said tara. looking forward to tomorrow my son and his partner are coming for lunch and bringing 3 an a half month grand daughter
i cant stop crying
 
 

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Post by kallis3 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 10:19 am
Oh Michael, what a bad time you are having. I hope you continue to feel more upbeat today. Hopefully your wife will be feeling better when she gets home. I suppose she is feeling stressed as well as she is going to lose her job. It does put an enormous strain on your relationship, and no matter how much you say you won't argue, you always do (we've had some real humdingers!)

Still, you've got your sons visit to look forward to tomorrow. Be nice to see your granddaughter as well.
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Post by michael.t47 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 10:25 am
thanks janice, so glad i found you all
i just cannot stop feeling down i am the worrier she forever the optimist
 
 

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Post by kallis3 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 10:31 am
With us it's strange. If he is down about this I will be the optimist and vice versa, even if I don't feel very cheerful at the time.

I am usually a terrible pessimist, but I have always looked on the black side, then things never do turn out as bad as they seem!
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Post by freelili » Sat Jun 07, 2008 10:33 am
michael

I am so sorry youre feeling so crap right now, perhaps she is feeling crap and afraid too. You do need to talk to each other. Sometimes it helps to suggest you both write down what youre feeling just so that you can start to communicate and appreciate each others fears and desperation. I do believe she is counting on you to get yourself through it. I also think you do need to talk with someone. Youre depressed, feel alone and not quite sure if you can carry on. Think of this as rock bottom, crying rids your body of some of the stress hormones,isnt always a bad thing. We laugh when we are happy dont we? We all need help at times, my email is yours too , if you want it.
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Post by michael.t47 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 10:39 am
thanks lily i have already spoken to the dr, she has given me some sleeping pills and referring me to counselling. i just hoping my wife gets the job she went for on wed. they said they be in touch within 3 days an if successful she has to do half a day an then a 2nd interview.
 
 

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Post by kallis3 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 10:44 am
Fingers crossed for her.

I'm sure the sleeping pills and counselling will be a great help to you as well.
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Post by michael.t47 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 10:46 am
how do i mail you lily
 
 

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Post by michael.t47 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 10:47 am
feeling better chatting with you all on here
only got 4 more shifts then i off for 18 days
 
 

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Post by kallis3 » Sat Jun 07, 2008 10:49 am
That will be a nice break. Give you time to recharge those batteries.
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