I don;t think that your IP is necessarily being unhelpful to you, by sending you the bankruptcy booklet. Perhaps he/she feels that you ought to reflect on your situation in the long term and have a long hard think about the future.
A meeting with the IP would be preferable in order to explore all options, but you would firstly be wise to map out your monthly income and expenditure for the next year or so to ensure that if you intend to make a variation offer that the payments are actually affordable.
Regards, Melanie Giles, Insolvency Practitioner for over 20 years.
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