hi skippy, big hug. i'd looked at the bottom of you posting where you mention getting married & wondered if you'd had "the big day". it's only to be expected to feel sadness that he won't be there to give you away,i'm sure he'll be very close to you. when are you getting married? i think he's be so proud of you,you've come through so much,turned your life around,you deserve to be happy.
my nana didn't say a lot but i was so close to her. i remember one day putting little kisses all over her face,dripping tears all over her at the same time,she lay un concious.
thankyou for the kindness,mopped my tears now,big hug x
Nothing stays the same...everything changes..hang on in there!
lovely message jo.58, a wise head you have there on young shoulders.
like you i'd rather be without the flash holidays and have my hubby not worrying himself to death over debts(which he was keeping to himself). where we are now is much better even though it means we can't always have what we want,going back to how my Nana's generation were.
even though i have a lot to deal with(health) i have a lot to be grateful for. thankyou for the kindness,bit wobbly with the anniversary of Nana'd death at the moment. your hubby is lucky to have you,you obviously love him very much,hug x
Nothing stays the same...everything changes..hang on in there!
Thank you Rosepetal, not always had a wise head but since having my breakdown and facing the debt problems makes you realise just what is important but has taken me a long time and is a hard lesson to learn, but hopefully with the help and support of you guys on the forum and our (hubby's) IP we will get through this as I'm sure there are going to be tough times ahead when I'm gonna feel like the iva is endless but I just need to remember what it was like before. We are all here to support one another through the good and bad times, so thank you x x
I'm sorry about your Nana as well Rosepetal - just catching up with this again. My own paternal grandparents died a long, long time ago and I never knew my maternal ones.
My daughter still has her maternal grandparents but hubby's died long before I met him.
We're all a bit wobbly when it comes to the anniversary of a loved one. It will be twenty two years this November since my one brother-in-law died. We still talk about him to this day.
Skip - I'm sure you'll shed a tear for your dad on your wedding day. He'll be watching over you though.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
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Rosepetal, we're getting married on 21st September next year. I'm going to take a flower from my bouquet to the crematorium the next day and leave it for my Dad. I was going to have a buttonhole made up for him, but the lovely florist that we are using suggested I take one of my flowers as I will have been holding them.
The ironic thing is if Dad was still here I doubt we would have been getting married. He was severely disabled and there's no way he would have been able to go to the wedding, and I couldn't have got married without him being able to go.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
dear skippy,bless you,what a mixture of emotions you must have.
the idea of the flower is a lovely one,i'm sure he'll feel it. although the visit to take it to him may well be emotional for you it's important you do it. your husband to be must be a sweetie too,lucky lady,count those blessings,hug x
Nothing stays the same...everything changes..hang on in there!
Dave is a sweetie (not that I'd tell him that!) and I'm lucky to have him. It will be hard going to the crematorium as I never go but it's something I really want to do.
I hope no one thinks I'm not looking forward to the wedding as I can't wait. It's made me think of a lot of people who won't be there and how much I miss them - if I'm like this now I'll be a complete wreck by next year!
Its been 23 years since my Dad died, and just the other day I burst into tears thinking about him for no apparent reason. They really do not go too far away, and I know he was by my side when I got married and I am sure you will feel that too Skip.
Skip, I know you can't wait. You have to be positive and think of the future and your dad and your aunt would want you to be happy on your special day.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
Rosepetal and Lem I too am sorry to hear of your loss. And Skippy Kallis is right your dad and aunt would want you to be happy on your big day.
My dad died 33 years ago when I was just 15 but I still think about him every day. I think that's what keeps me going because when I look at my boys I know they need me so I know I have to keep on going.
I too agree, our memories are precious and far more important than money.
I'm lucky in that my parents are still alive and I'm not far off 60 now. I love them to bits (even if they do my head in sometimes!) but can't imagine being without them although I know that time is not far off.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
My Dad died before my daughters wedding, we took one of the Lily's out of her bouquet to his grave the next day. My youngest brother got married in July and my brother who sadly passed away 2 years ago was mentioned. It's hard but I believe as others do they're there in spirit x
IVA final payment left the bank on the 26th January 2013...looking forward to a debt free future.
