Hi and welcome to the forum.
First of all im so sorry to hear about you losing your daughter.
Can you come to some agreement to clear the arrears you have on the property?
How much equity is in the property?
Can you tell us who your creditors are and how much you owe to each please so we can assist further.
How much disposable income would you have to offer into an IVA, after priority bills, shopping, utilities and such like BUT before paying creditors?
If you apply for an IVA and it is accepted, you will be legally protected from creditors taking any action against you so long as you keep up with the IVA payments and mortgage payments.
The way you feel is very normal and most on the forum have been there.
Speak to more than 1 company though and go with the one you feel the most comfortable with.
Have a look on
www.iva.com
There you will find a list of IVA providers and reviews on each.
Melanie Giles is an IP on this forum and comes very highly recommended.
Her details can be found on the experts page.
Good luck and try not to worry too much xxx