chris.z, well done for seeking help with your gambling. As you found out gambling can make your financial situation worse. I wish you the best with taming that beast (smile). Mel's right you can't have two IVAs concurrently. Did you explain to the second IVA company that you already have an IVA and was in arrears? If so they should have informed you that there is nothing they can do for you.
The negativity you said was expressed by your IP when you offered the £220 in payment instead of the £350 may have been caused by a clause in your IVA. Is there something in your IVA stating no variations for the first 24 months? If so, that may explain why the IP reacted the way s/he did.
Sorry to hear about your health. Debts can have an effect on your health. You are under a tremendous amount of stress: the IVA getting approved, your partner left, in arrears with the IVA and getting help with gambling. That's 4 situations you are dealing with and they came one after another. Probably felt like a a tidal wave, overwhelming and swept you off your feet. Please make sure these issues are discussed with the person who is giving you help with your gambling. Yes, you have a gambling addiction, but the others need to be explored as well because they are linked.
Feel free to come here and post. We're here to listen as we have been in financial messes. Rant and rave if you feel the need. Get things off your chest.
You take care and stay strong mentally and spiritually and emotionally. I am sending you one of my debt warrior helmets (read the blog for clarity)to give you courage during your time of need. Wear it proudly my friend.
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