Please look after yourself and your daughter. Staying with your parents could be a great interim option as you'll have their protection while you regroup. Most importantly...don't believe a word he says about you! You are as important and capable as anyone else in this world...he wants to break your spirit to control you...dont give him that!!!
I agree with all these sod the debt just get out anywhere you can and please please dont believe what he calls you,, you are better then that think about your daughter the most important thing in your life and the best thing you ever did was give her a life. Get out now anywhere. please,then you can booth have a better life. xxx
ITS OVER WE ARE FINALLY DEBT FREE, CERTIFICATE ARRIVED
I don't think that any of us on the forum are professionally qualified to counsel Darcey about what is right for her to do - but there are lots of good organisations who can - and as everyone has already stated it does no harm to find out what you can do to move on from this abusive life that no human being should have to suffer at the hands of another.
This happened to someone fairly close tome, who one day piled her kids in the car with a couple of suitcases and left for the refuge of a women's support organisation. They found her a new home in another town, helped her to get the children into new schools and helped her to find a job. She has never looked back, and has not been contacted by her ex-husband now in over 12 years, and is in a new and loving relationship.
The sooner you take the bull by the horns and gather the strength to make life changing decisions, the more you will feel in control and be ready to move on.
and big hugs from me as well, xxxx we think we have probs waiting for a piece of paper, nothing compared to that. But you will get through you have got to believe that please xxxx
ITS OVER WE ARE FINALLY DEBT FREE, CERTIFICATE ARRIVED
Hi Darcy
Hope you sort yourself out. Remember, we are here to support you and there is life after this for you. A much better and safer life! Hope you are OK today and remember to post so that we know you are OK.
Take what life throws at you and hold your head up high. You're only human after all!!!
Hope things look less bleak today darcey. Your post moved me so much and so did all the prompt supportive replies you got. I have not been where you are but had a similar husband who told me for 12 years I was rubbish. Now I know I wasn't but HE WAS. Your daughter needs you to find the strength inside that you don't know you have yet. Forget the debt and reach out for help. It is out there. Good luck.
With all the posts on the forum at the moment yours in my books is the most important. After reading of your plight last night I wanted to get in the car come and find you both and bring you to my home a place of safety. Then I read Melanies post and her words of wisdom rang true, we live in a society where the law is on your side, where help is available for you both, its unfortunate that many partners think the abuser will change they often dont, your daughter needs you to make her life change as well as your own, please take those steps forward and seek help.
I most certaintly concur with Daniel's posting. Amongst all of the comments at the moment about people being annoyed at having to pay over their PPI reclaims into their IVA funds, or having to wait for their cases to be closed often for very good reasons - this posting puts everything into perspective.
It is a shame that Darcey feels that she needs to revert to a debt forum for support, but I for one am happy that she has seen that the ethos of this forum is still to provide care and support to those who need it the most. We are here for you whenever you need us to be.
My lovely husband has just returned home from a weekend away with the lads, and I am eternally grateful to be a partner in an incredibly loving relationship - which is where each one of us really deserve to be.
