Agree totally with Ginger. My youngest, Little Foggy, or is that Fogglet, is 6 and totally unaware that he is living on a budget
I must admit that the feeling of losing that "credit card cushion" was a bit unnerving at first, but you do soon get used to it. We have many, many poster on here that re-visit after their IVA and tell us how well they are coping after the IVA has completed.
Of course, all of us IN IVA's are living proof that it CAN be done. OK some of us have little blips to negotiate, but we generally manage.
It takes a bit of practice, but can be done ... try to compartmentalise your life. Put life in one box, work in another and the IVA in a third. Then, open each box only as and when required.
I used to be a workaholic (wouldn't think it to look at me now) and did learn to compartmentalise work and home, away from each other. I am now an expert at it and when I shut down my work computer my job ceases to exist. I have also done this with my IVA and don't allow it to intrude upon family life. I simply have a budget to live to, the reasons are not relevant.
You have not ruined your kid's lives. What you ARE doing is taking positive steps to make sure you can provide for them in the long term. A bit of discomfort along the way is par for the course.
My opinions are merely that .. opinions based on experience. Always seek professional advice.
IVA Completed 23rd July 2013 .... C.C. 10th January 2014