Hi maggie, and welcome to the forum.
If you cancel your direct debit, you will find that the bank will still take the payment anyway.
We were with HSBC and had a loan. When we were unable to pay it in full, I tried cancelling the payment, but was not allowed to. Even changing banks, swapping the payments across to the new bank and then cancelling, made no difference. They just kept taking the payments, then putting the money back and charging us!
They tried to get us to re finance as well.
Have you thought about trying for an IVA or doing a DMP through a company? That way, all the hassle is taken from off your shoulders.
HSBC did accept a DMP through a company from us.
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