Its all gone bad...

[thefsg]

I just posted on another subject and then read this thread. It certainly puts into perspective how trivial some of the other concerns are when you get such terrible news. I wish you all the best at this difficult time, cazlizzy

[sus65]

Cazlizzy your post bought a tear to my eye.

So sorry to hear of the tragic times you and your family are experiencing.

Lots of love and take care
xxx

[mitchymoo]

Cazlizzy my thoughts go out to you and your family at this sad time.
Lots of hugs
XX

[orange]

our thoughts are with you all at this sad time x

[Mrs Pish]

I'm so very sorry for your loss [:(] I hope your new granndchild can give you a slight glimmer of light at the very least.

It sounds like you are in good hands with Cleardebt, I hope they can give you some piece of mind at this time.

You're in my thoughts.

[Lisa2009]

What a sad sad post. My thoughts and deepest sympathy are with you and your loved ones.
I agree with Mel, speak to Mike Morgan. He's very proffessional and will do all he can to help. He's also a really lovely man and will be very very understanding.

Please keep posting if you need somewhere to sound off.

Hugs xxxxx

[leaKybrain]

I'm so so sorry to hear your sad news, I really hope that your IVA can be settled and sorted for you. xx

[size5]

Nothing I can say or do will ease what you are feeling now, and my deepest sympathies go to you, your daughter and the 4 little ones. As mentioned previously I can empathise with your situation, having people you cherish ripped away cruelly and suddenly without any warning at all is a horrendous thing to happen, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It seems somehow easier if you have advance warning, and again, like most, I have sad experience of that, although of course it is still as painful.

As for the financial side of things, anything I can do to help I will. My phone is always on, as is my e mail and if you want to call then do so at any time. I will also speak to supervisory on your behalf and see what can be done.

I am so sad to hear your dreadful news and once again my deepest condolences to you all.

Regards.

[kallis3]

Hopefully Mike will be able to help you out.

[cazlizzy]

Thank you all so,so much for you thoughts and kinds words, but especially for your support. It is such a difficult place to be in and deal with, but equally such a difficult thing to hear about and respond to, it makes us all aware of our vulnerability, so your thoughts are much appriciated.

Thank you especially Mike, as i know this is a painful reminder for you and I shall be in touch once I can get myself a little space. Odd really, because you spoke with my daughter Nicky over the summer. I gave her your contact deatails when she was trying to sort out her finances because I knew you would guide her in the right direction, she thought you were wonderful.
As it happened, Mazen got a job Africa a few months ago and the future for them both was starting to look so good. New job, new baby on the way and he was due home this month for the birth.
What a difference a day makes.... He was playing football on the beach with his workers, scored a goal, jumped up to celebrate it ...and in that moment it all changed.

My main concern now is keeping it all together and getting Nicky safely to the end of her pregnacy. She has a pelvic condition that means she is in quite a lot of pain, which will only get worse as the weeks go by and only compounds her emotions pain.

After posting here initally, I got the new I&E done and the paperwork together and sent it all of to Charlotte. I asked for a F&F based on payments to date,though I wasn't sure that was a possibility and I also felt guilty at even asking that. so I also asked that if they thought that too then to offer 6mths payments upfront as a F&F. I just hope it made sense and was done correctly, my head was whirling at the time.
I have no idea what will happen next, but once I hear I shall post and let you know.

Thank you all again
Carole

[Skippy]

Carole, I really feel for you and your daughter. She is lucky to have you, but make sure you have time for yourself as you need to grieve as well. When someone loses someone it's so easy to get wrapped up in their grief and ignore your own.

Lots of love to you all xxx

[kallis3]

Carole, I really feel for you and your family. It was all looking so good and then someone pulls the rug from under your feet.

We are always here for you for support.

[Goosed]

I`ve attempted to reply to this thread several times, I just don`t know what to say.
How cruel life can be, I cannot begin to imagine how you and your daughter are coping cazlizzy.
I hope cleardebt will at least be able to give you some financial respite at this very sad and difficult time.

[MelanieGiles]

We are all here for you Carole at any time of the day if you want to share any of your thoughts, and that does not have to just be about your IVA.

[cazlizzy]

Thank you Skippy and Jan, Can always count on you both for support, and Melanie, your kind words meant a lot, thank you.
Thank you too Goosed, I know how hard it is to respond to this sort of news, we ourselves have done it too much just lately. Too many young people being taken and too many young families torn apart.

Nicky has had a support fitted which takes some of the weight off her pelvice so she wasn't in too much discomfort today. She has an appointment tomorrow with the hospital, the midwife is concerned that baby appears not to have grown since last week, although she is lively and has a strong heartbeat. A part of me hopes she delivers early, to both easy her discomfort and more importantly, to help her focus on something else.
We are all aware that the birth will be a bitter sweet occasion whenever it happens, but she will have a lot of support. The midwives have been fantastic and have said they will continue to support her, and extend their care after the birth too.
While we are a small family, just me and my girls, and my brother and his family, Mazen has a very large family many of whom are flying over at the end of the month to be here for the new arrival. So while it will be a very emotional time, she will be surrounded by love and care.

Life can be very,very cruel but if we never found a ray of hope or light in the darkness,we would never put one foot in front of the other and move forward, however slowly.
Our little Amirah (if the name doesn't change)was always going to be a welcomed addition, but now I think she holds a special place and a light for both families.