Rollercoaster, I'm really sorry to hear your proposal was rejected by MBNA today, please dont loose heart, there will be a solution out there for you.
During this week, I had felt really shakey about our proposal so I logged onto
www.bankruptcy.co.uk, as I was so worried about what we'd do in the event that our IVA was declined. It really helped me understand exactly what the process would mean, and put in perspective that it wasnt as bad an option as I first thought, should the IVA have failed. I did'nt feel anywhere near as scared after researching Bankruptcy. It amazing how scared we can be of the unknown!
If you havnt been on the site, when the time is right for you, I would recommend you look at this even if just for the knowledge the other solution vehicles out there.
We've all made the hardest choice of 'Owning up to ourselves' that there is a situation that needs addressing. This isnt easy,but what counts now is being able to make informed choices about the solutions rather than have them made for us.
I hope this helps and I wish you the very best of luck with whatever you plan to do. Keep your chin up!
Sincerely
flowerpot