Just found this section!

[freelili]

I have seen angies fishes in the flesh, they are very huge. (hmm, I hope there isnt a rude joke there somewhere).

[Lisa2009]

My son keeps hoping a shark will come and eat me LOL
He threatens me with it all the time.

Dont know what i was thinking this morning. He was being his usual NONE chrming self so i stopped the car and demanded he got out.
He didnt know what to say to that so he just shut up.

[kallis3]

[:D][:D]

Talking of maggots reminds me of when I used to live in a flat above a fishing tackle shop. To get to the door of the flat I used to have to go along this narrow passageway. On a Thursday afternoon, the shop used to take delivery of the next lot of maggots (loads of them). Trouble was, the shop closed for half day, so the containers used to be stacked against the wall in this passageway, which was unlit!

If I was on a late shift, or a night shift, I used to have to clock (as best I could), which side of the passageway they had been stacked, and then I used to make sure I was as far away as possible and slide along the wall to get past them!

Horrible things!

[aguise]

Lily fancy saying mine are huge lol.

My mum used to go mad at dad for putting them in the fridge overnight(keeps them nice and fresh supposedly) in a tupperware box ugg bit of a shock for anyone being nosey and fancying a sandwich. I dont mind them and specially liked the pink ones when I was little.

ang xx

[kallis3]

Mrs S - the smiley faces were for Lily, not for you![:0][:0]

I don't want a shark to come and eat you!

[freelili]

In my old house they used to fish as a hobby and when the man came to put the internet in they found a box full of them under a bush, it was my worst nightmare.

Mrs S, I did that once, it was christmas and we were queing at the tills, my son didnt like shops at the best of times, he hit full blown trantrum and the chap behind was moaning and groaning. If he was mine I would, bla bla bla.

I had enough so I refused to put him in the car and started to drive away, he calmed down and shut up. Needless to say the man got told that he was Autistic and didnt understand violence like his generation do.

I wouldnt have left him but it did the trick.

[freelili]

Oh Ang, I just couldnt cope with that. I worried myself sick about meeting the Maggot lady at work on a training day. Luckily she didnt turn up as if she had I would have gone off sick myself.

[kallis3]

My next door neighbours have a severely autistic son. He's 17 now, but does not communicate at all.

A few years ago, after some severe winds, he managed to 'escape' from home because of fences having blown down and gates left open. Needless to say, there was a full scale search launched, both by the police (including the helicopter), and the neighbours.

He was eventually found on the local railway line, just outside the station where, fortunately, a train managed to stop in time (it had only just started pulling away). It made the local papers, and all people could say was how rude he was because he didn't speak. No one stopped to ask if he had any problems, and if you look at him, you can see that he does. Even the train driver had a go.

Our neighbours didn't want to make a fuss, so didn't inform anyone of what he was like. I would have done - how dare they just make assumptions based on a few minutes obvservations!

I suppose it happens all the while.

[aguise]

I can guess why you had a maggot lady at work. I dont know if I could stand that. I can only recall them using them once at work, dont fancy it myself though,but it works quite well.

Ang x

[freelili]

Necrotic ulcers, I managed to escape the treatment myself. Our job is to debride down to a good blood supply, then the tissues, hopefully, recover but, if the blood supply isnt good it can do more harm than good, so we were moving much more toward larva therapy. They are sterile but still thats no consolation. Working with tissue viability team isnt for me anymore.

[aguise]

I just wouldnt fancy feeling them wriggling around. Hope nobody is eating dinner lol.

Ang x

[freelili]

Jan

It does, I wanted a neon stip for my boys at times. I managed to grow a thick skin. I am not a bad parent and my children are not out of control, they have a disability and all they need is understanding. These days things are much calmer as they are older.

Phew !!!! your neighbour was really lucky, my son did escape once in the rain when my ex was cleaning the car and left the door open. He was found, stark naked playing on a slide in someones garden, luckily she was a dinner lady at the school and brought him back. He never liked clothes on his skin and would always strip off.

[kallis3]

We have never had a problem with him, we knew the problems before they moved in. We do try and talk to him if we see him with his parents (just to say hello, but nothing back from him). He just makes noises, and when he gets frustrated, he will scream and scream. We're used to it, but where they used to live, they had horrendous problems with the neighbours.

For heavens sake - he can't help it, and I am sure they would far rather have had a child without a disability!

I do wonder what will happen to him at the end of this school year. At present, he attends a special needs school, but once he turns 18, they can't take him anymore, he will be there 24/7. They do put him into respite care from time to time so they can have time on their own, I do admire them for coping with him.

[freelili]

Being that severe he will probably go to a day centre, my sister has a severely autistic son like that, he is 25 and has never developed launguage. He is also severely epileptic, him and his sister (she had meningitis at nine weeks old) go to the day centre from 9 til 4. My son goes to a special school and I was dreading when he finished it but I think he can go to the local college with support. Its more of a worry when I die to be honest. I dont want to leave them, ever, but I know one day... So I am trying to make them as able and independant as I possibly can. There is no point in being miserable about it, I want them to be happy and I am going to do what I can for as long as I can and be happy about it.

[kallis3]

Never thought of that Lily.

I am sure they worry about what will happen as they get older. They are both probably in their 40's now, so hopefully have a long time to go,but of course looking after him will become harder as they get older.

Lily, I think you are doing a wonderful job, particularly as a single parent.