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Post by scaredkez » Sun Jun 24, 2007 9:47 pm
last night my 8 yr old cried to stay at his friends house, i didn't want him to but gave in in the end, anyway they went to the park, and beside it is a skate board arena, where a man and woman sat, now this park is right behind the infant junior school on our estate, where you can happily watch the kids play at play time, there is also a gate which leads into the school yard which is closed during school hours, anyway my son and his friend were playing on the ramps on their bikes when the woman approached and started talking to them, she asked if she could have a go on the bike, my sons friend let her ride on the bike, they said she was quite old but seemed nice and her name was jean, she then offered them some lucozade sweets which both of them took, then another man came with a girl in a car and parked near the park,they thought the girl was disabled as she talked funny, the woman continued to chat with them and then the 2 boys went home, they didn't tell anyone until this morning as they didn't think anything was wrong.


please is it me or is this wierd, i am writing this very calmly was not very calm before when i was told what had happened, i went straight to the police station, you read how they school their victims and why would a couple want to sit on a park with no kids, my biggest shock was yet to come, the police said well we can't do anything as they haven't done anything untoward!!!! being the older generation they may not feel they have done anything wrong in offering 2 kids sweets, i am sorry, but in this day and age its awful to say but you cannot trust anyone, on a park, near a school, open area, playing on kids bikes offering sweets, thats very untoward to me, because they hadn't touched them they wouldn't do anything and they couldn't interview the 2 boys without social services and would have to use video testaments,

i have taught my son stranger danger etc and he knows better than this, believe me he has had a right roasting, i explained to him i could have been identifying his body this morning or searching the estate, is it me or have i gone mad, did they have to take them before they would do anything, it may have all been innocent, but for 6.30 on a saturday evening i really do not think so, thought i would share my awful experience today, for other parents out there.
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Post by MelanieGiles » Sun Jun 24, 2007 11:03 pm
Kerri

I think it is awful that we have to frighten our kids into knowing what is dangerous these days, and that they do not have the freedom we had at their ages to roam about and develop social skills by mixing with other kids and adults.


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Post by scaredkez » Sun Jun 24, 2007 11:17 pm
to be honest melanie my story sounds a lot better than what happened, the man and the "disabled" girl met up with this couple, and knew them it is all very strange, it was horrible trying to explain what the consequences could have been, yes it all may have been innocent, but again it all could have been a ploy, i have been on knifes edge all day as he hasn't realised the seriousness of it all, he thought she was nice and i explained strangers will be nice so you like them, honest to god been one of the worst days ever, i am having a bit of trouble with the 8 yr old as he knows we are going to have to move and think he is trying me, i just feel like i am being punished, but thank god he is safe tonight, just amazed at the police for thinking there was nothing in it, the boys tried to tell me she was 60, my mums age i don't think my mum would offer to get on their bikes, i just wish i could picture it better for you this park, is in open space no houses over looking so if anyone wanted to take a child they really could, i wouldn't mind he isn't allowed there so thats why he didn't tell me this morning, i was like a mad woman believe me, yes at his age i could roam but unfortunately in this day and age you can't, getting the cotton wool out now ready for wrapping him up.
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Post by kandh » Mon Jun 25, 2007 1:14 pm
I have to admit Kerri that I would have done the exact same thing as you and also think it is too odd to ignore. I know that I am an over protective mum to 4 (twins 8, 6 and a 3 yo). I dont let them out on their own (even though neighbours have younger children and they are allowed to roam freely). If they want to play outside the front of the house (grassy area surrounded by houses etc) I either go out with them and tend to the garden while they play or I sit by the dining room window watching them.

I know that my children are very naive about life in general and they still think fairies live at the bottom of the garden. I have told them about the dangers of speaking to strangers on a regular basis (even more so after little Madeline went missing) but in my heart I know that if someone came up to them with sweets they would go to them without thinking.

I hope now that you are feeling a little calmer and that your son will know what could have happened.
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Post by MelanieGiles » Mon Jun 25, 2007 4:13 pm
Kerri

Did you see my suggestion on an earlier post yesterday about remortgaging at the end of your bankruptcy discharge period to try and hang onto the property - ie by buying it back from the Trustee? I am not sure if this is something you even want to consider, but I did want to let you know that it is an option.

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Post by scaredkez » Mon Jun 25, 2007 7:01 pm
thanks kandh such an awful day yesterday you start thinking the worst and have pictures running through your mind, well he hasn't even asked if he can play out today so thats a good sign maybe he has now realised how serious this could have been.

melanie i have answered on your original post thank you.

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