Love, strength and support

[MrsKnight]

Arrrrrrrrrrrrggggghhhh! Just had another visit, as much as I love my mum, dealing with her & this can be really hard.

[Shining]

Oh bless ya and I can empathise with you about your Mum dementia etc., I received my birthday card yesterday from MIL, least she remembered a month early! bless her.

Hang in there lyns x

[MrsKnight]

Thank you & I know u understand where I'm coming from, the boys are starting to notice something is "wrong" with grandma now & I have to watch her & them together. I found her cornering my eldest a couple of days ago & he was a tad freaked out by it.

Its horrible watching a person you know change & disappear.

[kallis3]

Not good Lyns. I can imagine your son being a bit worried by it so I do agree that you need to watch them together.

It must be awful for you Lyns.

[MrsKnight]

It does get me down sometimes as I miss her, but mum has always had problems, which is why I have a close relationship with my dad, he's had alot to deal with over the years.
It's when I have my bad days that I find her hard to cope with, I'm usually ok. I'm very glad I managed to get all the medical help for mum & for my dads sanity aswell! Plus I can't be there for them like I normally am at the moment, but at least my dad can still come & rant at me!

[Shining]

My youngest is terrified of MIL and she's 18 so I do understand totally. x

[kazzafunk]

Bless you- you're not having an easy time are you. Both my grandparents had alzheimers and although I was in my late teens I was scared stiff when I visited them, so to your sons it must be extra frightening.

Must be very hard for your dad.

[kallis3]

I'm so glad that my parents are still compus mentis. Physically they aren't good at all but I can cope with that.

[footiemad]

Its so hard dealing with dementia. FIL died at the age of 68 2 yrs ago. He was in the early stages of dementia (forgetful, getting lost, dropping things, very vague and the worst thing was the aggression) when he had a stroke. Taken into hospital very agitated, so much so that he had to have constant supervision and sllep on the floor. However, he banged his head on the wall, had a massive brain bleed and died. Very sad for MIL and hubby and kids x

[Shining]

Footiemad that is awful and very young. My MIl 67 I think and a mix of mental illness and dementia makes her unbearable at times but do realise it's not her fault.

[MrsKnight]

I'm sorry to hear that footiemad, I'm thankful that my mum is to frail to lash out. Mums 70 & has mental health issues that have been going on longer than I've been alive, now dementia is setting & has had MS since before I was born. Mum was also an alcoholic throughout my life till about 18 months ago, she had her reasons & I understand them.

On a lighter note, Its my eldest 9th birthday tomorrow! And mine on Saturday, so as I seem to like ending up in hospital on family birthdays, let's see if me & bingo get through them ok! [:D]
We are not doing much, my son really wants pizza Delivered so we are getting dominos for tea! And it's a special treat as we have never done it before. [:I] A friend has made a football cake to help me out. Not many presents as he was desperate for FIFA 12 game at £40! So he's got that n a few bits. But he is going to be loaded as he has £50 coming in birthday money! And a new Liverpool kit with his name on from the MIL.

[footiemad]

Sounds like you are going to have a smashing day Lyns. Huge happy birthday to your little one - enjoy yourselves x x

[Pandy]

I love the idea of having Pizza delivered is a big event, my sons at that age was going out and having a knickerbocker glory, he has never forgotten me doing that with him for his 9th birthday and he's now 26.
Enjoy your birthday's.

[kallis3]

Sounds like a good weekend. Hope both of you have a great time. It's my step grandaughters birthday Saturday, hubby's on Sunday, mine the week after and stepsons on the 20th!!

[Julie]

Happy birthday to your son, Lyns... Mmmmm pizza!!!

Hope bingo is behaving xx