hello debtdummy, and good luck for 2007, you have taken the right steps and you will see greener grounds.
1- i don't know, but i know you can defend, and you need to make sure that you have presented a budget showing the financial distress that an attachement order can cause to you and you family.
2- sorry, can't help there .
3- Your IP can advice on how and where you can get credit, as you will need their approval to obtain credit during IVA for more than £500 i believe. i am sorry i am not precise, but i am learning about that, and other can answer better.
2-charging order?
do you have to pay? Court can wave fees if you can show that paying the fee will create financila distress, as above. you can also go back to court to ask for the order to be change to reflect your current situation, and show that the amount is not reasonnable.
Forget about the default for now, ask for the arrears to be paid over a few months on top of the normal monthly payment? They have under the OFT guidance on debt collection to be reasonnable. If they are asking more than you can pay, they are not. and there is some thing call a time order that can give you more time to pay, you can apply as soon as you have received a default notice, if your aggreeemnt is regulated. google "time order debt" for more info, or let me know, i will come back with more details.
you can only try, until IVA get sorted.
regarding Marriage, i've been there: you get so tangled in sorting out the next day problems that you forget the commun aim you had once.
we have contacted Relate, they did heavilly asked for a fee (£50), but we explained that we did not have that, and they were ok with it. they are a charity. they will help.
Don't wait.
we say in france " plaie d'argent n'est pas mortelle"
that means "a financial wound is never lethal"
First matter Health, and Family.
repeat that to your self everyday, say to husband " you matter to me and we will get out of it together".
thank you for the info on the CRB.
Regarding what to tell to family and friend, we are still debatting ourselves:
Do we lie, and say that it is because of an old businees in france, or whaetver? (very tempting, the not my fault thing...)
Do we say nothing, hoping they won't find out? (very tempting, and they don't read the london gazette, i could hide the local papers the day the news come?)
Or do we put it on the plate at the next sunday lunch?
As you say, difficult.
Probably the biggest problem of all: you have found a solution, but you have to be ashamed of it?
i recomand a little book, written in 1926, call "the richest man in Babylon" the section about the camel trader (not kidding)
Hope all goes well, i am sure it will , you would not be here if you were not a fighter..
[:)]
Kind regards, Fabienne,
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