Merry Christmas!

[Shining]

can't do it Jan, sorry to rant but been up since 4am thinking about this and I've wound myself up to the point I'm telling hubby I'm not going. x

[kallis3]

Don't worry about ranting. Far better that you stay at home rather than be worried and stressed and upset if she has a go at you.

[Shining]

I've come to the decision, I'm cuttin myself out of her life, let's be honest about this, mental illness or not I'm always the target, nobody else, always nice to hubby and can differentiate between people, I'm trash, I'm a tramp so this trashy tramp is staying home alone today xx

[Skippy]

I'm sorry you'll be on your own today Lesley, but I really don't blame you for not going.

Take care xxx

[Shining]

I'm fine Skippy got plenty on Sky+ will catch up with that and lots of chocolates and crisps to eat! Least hubby does understand and so does daughter but she wouldn't go anyway she's going to her boyfriend's. It does cause an atmosphere but I'm changing and I'm being more assertive and it starts right here right now.

Hope you all have a great boxing day and no doubt I'll be on and off forum between programmes xx

[Pennyless]

Lesley me and you both. My wife is off to see her parents but I'm staying put! After all even after our 25th year of marriage, they still can't believe that she has remained by my side after I got into debt over the past couple of years. I would just feel two-faced if I visited them and as I know their true feelings towards me then I dont see the point in trying to play happy families.

Have a great day all.

By the way Lesley to me you are a star and without you and others help I would'nt of been able to get this far...so no more putting yourself down eh!

[Shining]

Oh Pennyless thank you, I'm sat here with tears in my eyes for your kind words and I also feel guilty for feeling sorry for myself when there are others in a much worse position than me out there today.

I'm going with your line of thinking and don't see the point in playing happy families when her feelings towards me are always made so obvious.

Have a great day Pennyless, I'm watching my soaps x

[MRBLUESKY]

take care you two,your not on your own i to like my own company on boxing day as i love to watch the football and sport,my partner and family have gone to the town shopping,[:)],and as far as visiting my inlaws on boxing day i.d rather stick pins in my eyes[:D],whent to see mam the smorning though she,s fine so i,m fine[:)]

[kallis3]

Sorry Lesley, just caught up with this again. I hope the day hasn't been too bad for you.

I don't blame you for wanting to sever the ties, you have had real problems with your MIL and after all you have done for her, you should not be treated like a piece of dirt.

Ronald - it's not a case of Lesley wanting to be on her own, her MIL has mental health problems and gives her a lot of grief. I'm sure she would love it if she could visit and have a normal day with her.

[MRBLUESKY]

ok jan i hope your day has been ok lesley and penny.

[Shining]

Hiya, hubby came back with a monetary christmas box from his Mother for us both and he said he had a good talk to her, she is apparently going to ring me to apologise but I know it won't last if she does do this, he explained how I've never done her any harm and only ever supported her even when he himself was angry with her. She appeared to understand he said. I'm not a horrible person I'm really not and do understand she can be ill but with medication she isn't always so therefore does know and admitted today she does it to gain attention. We'll see what happens. Thanks for all your support it really is much appreciated and gets me through these times.

My day was fine in the end Mr Blue Sky, I went dog training and watched a few bits on Sky, just had my mixed up tea (a bit of this and that) and now settled down to watch the TV.

[kallis3]

Lesley you are not a horrible person at all! Please don't think that.

I hope your MIL keeps to this. You deserve a break.

[Pennyless]

Lesley I'm glad to hear your day was good in the end. As for feeling sorry for yourself, well have you ever met anyone who didn't have such feelings at some time?....and in reality Xmas and New Year are probably the top times for emotions to run riot lol.

I really hope things work out between you and your MIL, not just for yours and her sake but also that of your hubby, who seems to be trying his best to explain things to his Mum in order to bring you all closer together.

In any event, amongst others, you do a great job helping everyone on these forums so whenever you need a rant or to feel sorry for yourself just carry on, we're always here for you and eachother.

Hope everyone has a great New Year x

[kallis3]

We have my parents to stop all over Christmas. They drive me nuts but I couldn't imagine it without them.

My dad is well chuffed as he beat hubby at tenpin bowling on the Wii last night - which is more than I did![:D]

[flumpy dog]

hey lesley-just caught up with this hun
dont you dare put yourself down!
your words and support hae inspired me to keep going on many occasion x
you area wonderful person and you are human and are allowed to be fragile at times x
this forum would be a poor place without you you are a great support and comfort to many posters. you are a lovely person so start being nice to yourself otherwise im going to get flumpy with you !!! xxxxxxx luv fd[:o)]