My Story and I'm having a bad day

[debtfreesusie67]

So many of you have shared your stories of trials and tribulation that I feel that I can do the same.

I'm 40 and here's my story. It goes back to March 2005. I was at the supermarket with my mum and dad was waiting in the car. I'd gone out to the car to put the shopping in and mum had stayed behind to get a lottery ticket. As she walked back to the car I saw her and waved she waved back then disapeared. Turned out she just collapsed. The hospital though she had suffered a stroke. It turned out not to be a stroke but to be lung cancer that had spread to her brain. Radiotherapy followed along with steroids. She could't walk unaided but seemed to be improving. End of May the radiotherapy had finished. Things were looking up. Then dad had a heart attack. Through all this I was on sick leave and receiving statutory sick pay. Dad was in hospital seemed to be doing better then we received a call asking us to get to the hospital as soon as possible.
Dad survived that and was due to be released on the Thursday. On Wednesday mum was feeling a bit rough, nothing to bad or so I thought. On Thursday morning I went to her room to find her having fits, she was rushed to hospital. I had to go to dad's ward and tell him about mum. I refused to leave her hospital room from that moment on. The following Tuesday she died.
By this time I was suffering from quite serious stress and depression. On the Sunday after the funeral Dad had another heart attack. Well several operations later (triple bypass and operation to get the heart beating correctly) he was doing okay.
Then he developed a cough that wouldn't go. By this time it was end of 2006. The doctor sent him for a chest x-ray. They discovered he had emphasema and asbestos plaques from working in the shipyards in the '50's. The also saw a shadow and needed to do more tests. Yep you guessed it he has lung cancer. He had radiotherapy and everything looked good. Then just before Christmas we went back for a general check up and discovered there were more cancer cells. At the last check up in February it looks like it has spread to his right lung. We have a CT scan on 12th May to see how bad it is.
Through all this I have suffered quite badly with depression. When mum died I was living on my credit cards to pay bills buy food and everything. There wasn't enough money as dad was on a state pension and my sick pay was hardly anything.
This is how all my debt escalated. I still feel bad that I can't pay it all or even some of it back. I was trying to do an IVA until I lost my job now it's going to be bankruptcy and I still feel guilty and bad.
I'm sorry to have rambled on but I'm having quite a bad day and just want to run away and cry. I can't do that though as there's still dad to look after, still money to find for bills and food. At least I have the money for the BR fees.
Don't feel you need to reply I just needed to share to stop me crying.[:(]

Sue

[kallis3]

Sue I am so sorry to hear your story, it's really sad! Sorry to hear that your mom died.

I can sympathise, a couple of years ago my father was hospitalised with circulation problems in his legs, he got over that and a couple of months later had a heart attack which resulted in a triple bypass. Hubbie also had a heart attack so I was rushing between two hospitals 20 miles apart daily. I am an only child so mom relies on me to run her to hospital etc, so it was off there everynight after work until he was released. He is still ok, but has been hospitalised with pneumonia since then.

Hubbie has heart disease anyway and had a quadruple bypass 18 months ago. As soon as he was released from that, he was back in with pulmonary embolisms! I also had gall bladder problems so you can see that that was my year from hell! I was off sick for a while though stress and had the Spanish Inquisition when I got back.

Everyone is fine now, thank goodness. It is stressful though, especially when you are coping with debt problems as well.

This forum is great for getting things off your chest, and I hope you are feeling better for getting it off your chest. You are among friends here.

[Julie]

Oh Sue, what a sad story, but what a strong person you must be. As you say we all have shared our problems from time to time and it really does help.

There have been times in my life when I couldn't face getting out of bed - I find it helps to get it all off your chest so to speak and if posting on here helps you, then please do so. I'm sure I can speak for others when I say we'll all listen and support as much as possible.

Take care x

[Skippy]

I'm so sorry to hear that your mum died and that you dad is ill Sue. I really hope you don't get more bad news on 12th - I'll keep everything crossed for you and send you all the positive thoughts I can.

I can identify with you a bit - my dad died 9 years ago and I ended up being signed off with stress as I couldn't cope with work and making sure my mum was alright.

Take care and keep strong xxx

[debtfreesusie67]

Thanks everyone. You guys always make me feel better

Sue

[animaleyes76]

Hey Sue,

How's your situation going regarding your old employer going?

[debtfreesusie67]

I've decided that my health and life isn't worth the worry so I haven't done anything

Sue

[animaleyes76]

yeah, just a bit.

they took lots of parts of stuff i said and put a completely different spin on it. Doubt you'll be surprised. They seem capable of anything.

Hope you are feeling better about stuff a bit now )

[debtfreesusie67]

In know I'm not allowed to swear but what a load of.............. I just feel very angry now. I'm sorry you got caught up in this.

[animaleyes76]

don't worry at all, it's fine. Maybe i shouldnt have put his name on , i was just curious if you knew each other.. Sounds like they are putting his name+ a site like this etc etc and inferring stuff.

Tell you what, let's send the boys in! )

[debtfreesusie67]

Sounds good to me

[debtfreesusie67]

If you put the name and IVA it brings up one of my other posts on google. Big brother is watching

[animaleyes76]

scary stuff hey. youd think they would have better things to be doing.. or they are scared.....

[debtfreesusie67]

Certainly makes you wonder!!!!!!

[facingittogether]

hi sure

just wanted to say how sorry i am, you have had such a terrible time!

am thinking of you and i really hope things start to look up for you - i am keeping everything crossed for the 12th!

please keep on posting as sometimes it can help just to get things off your chest!

take care

love barb x