Need some advice as to what to do

[SuperGert]

Hello everyone.

You all have been so helpful with IVA questions in the past I thought I could hopefully turn to you all yet again for some personal advice.

Sadly, my Husbands Cousin past away on Sunday morning after a terrible accident at the age of only 26.

Obviously his parents and Sister are in great shock as we all are, but me and my husband are at a loss as to whether or not we should send out their xmas pressies that we have for them or not? Not sure if it would be disrespectful, or maybe wait and send them in the new year.

Any advice would be most greatful x

[Shining]

What a tragic loss of a young life. It is difficult, you want them to know you're thinking of them but they may not be up to receiving brightly wrapped gifts. Is there a family member who can tell you if they're receiving presents? Maybe a card to let them know you're thinking of them in the interim x

[plasticdaft]

Given the fact that people grieve in different ways I would send the presents out as normal. Terrible loss at a time of year when so many loved ones seem to pass away!!

Paul

[plasticdaft]

Given the fact that people grieve in different ways I would send the presents out as normal. Terrible loss at a time of year when so many loved ones seem to pass away!!

Paul

[luluj]

So so sorry to hear this.....difficult times and a difficult decision...part of me says wait until after the funeral and then pick the phone up to them, explain that you have their xmas gifts and ask them what they would like you to do....the other part of me thinks leave it completely as normal and send them......
how close were you to them, and will you be going to the funeral ? You could see how things are then and make the decision...maybe have them in the car with you....are there other relatives you could leave them with until a more appropriate time ??

Not sure I have helped much...sorry

[SuperGert]

Thank you all for the advice. We are very close to them as a family as my husaband lived with them all when he was younger as his parents travelled a lot.

We will be going to the funeral, and think it is a great suggestion that we take the presents with us and see what happens from there onward. They have received some flowers and a card already to let them know we are thinking of them.