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by
lem » Fri Jun 15, 2012 11:49 am
Moving back to the topic the OP posted, I think it's important to highlight to posters the reality of an IVA and guide them appropriately into how certain behaviours within an IVA may affect them, it's pertinent here to ensure that those experts who post on here can offer their expert advice on these matters also and ensure that us 'debtor's and non professionals are giving correct advice. If after this the poster then decides against that advice, that is up to them and nothing to do with the rest of us to be frank.
However, what I do find a little strange is when people say things like 'I am so lucky to be in an IVA', 'I am so grateful to be given a second chance' etc etc etc.
Personally I don't feel lucky to be in an IVA at all, I don't feel grateful for it, I don't feel thankful to my creditors for giving me a second chance etc etc, the bottom line is in my opinion creditors aren't compassionate towards people's circumstances, it's purely and ultimately business, they want their money and they want as much back as they can get (which is understandable), they will only write off (through a full term IVA or a F&F) if it's obvious to them it's the best way they are going to get as much back as they can, they certainly don't agree to it because they are doing us a favour!
I don't feel an obligation to pay back as much as I can. likewise I don't feel any obligation to pay back as little as I can get away with, I will pay back what I can afford to pay, no more no less, that was what was agreed and like the creditors, I see this purely as a business transaction, no emotion comes into it, as far as my creditors are concerned, I am just a number.
I am however, extremely grateful to my IP for acting as the go between and for securing an IVA that makes it affordable for me and my family to lead as normal a life as we can for the next few years, helping us through any changes to our circumstances we may face, but I have no feelings towards my creditors at all to be honest.
Yes we took out those loans, credit cards etc etc in the first place and yes I had every intention of paying it all back, but life changes over time, circumstances change and creditors didn't help with the interest payments and charges they applied, what did they think would happen?
I don't know, I don't feel I've been given a second chance, I'm not a criminal for god sake!, I just see this as a period of time I have to get through, pay back what I can afford and then get on with the rest of my life by being careful what I spend in the future and living within my means.
So, as far as this forum is concerned, I think it's important for people to realise that although we are anonymous to a degree, we still need to be respectful and phrase our sentences carefully, even when discussing perceived failures from some of the companies who operate IVA's or indeed PPI reclaim companies, 'ambulance chasers' etc, there is nothing wrong with holding an opinion, it's how you choose to voice that opinion that can have repercussions or not.