Nikkio, I'm hoping I can be helpful too. Maybe you missed my post before. I'm a single mum of a disabled daughter and I've been through a change in my IVA so that I can claim her expenses. I don't know what you've already tried though. In my case my daughters needs cost more than her DLA (doesn't th...

I'm a bit confused. Have they said that you can't add on any expenses for your son? I'm guessing they've said that you can lower your payment since you mentioned extending and variations.