Ida Clare wrote:
I know I keep saying thank you but it is heartfelt.
I haven't even given the individual thanks to the kindness of people that are deserved.
Yesterday I had thw worst time of my entire life and I am not exaggerating.
Terror paralysed me. Pessimissm. It was almost as if I had already lost him I felt that low, I cried all day, mostly visibly and then around the children, just on the inside.
Today I decide I am going to do something and I find that an entire oncology dept (or so it seems) has no communication because one secretary is on holiday.
Is that reasonable? Drop a bombshell one day and leave people dangling for a wek because someone is on holiday?
I think the wrod for me today was "Beserk".
You are right to go beserk Ida Clare but unfortunately this is what happens and is a common problem.
What is the NHS area that the oncology department is in? If you can find out which NHS Trust runs it I will ensure the Chairman of that Trust will be informed promply.
Have faith and try and keep positive - yes you will have up and down days but remember you have a caring family and kids to look after.[:)]
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Regards, David Mond, Insolvency Practitioner for over 46 years. Personal Insolvency Practitioner of the year 2012, Personal Insolvency Practitioner of the year finalist 2013 & 2014 awarded by Insolvency & Rescue Magazine and 2015 finalist for Personal Insolvency Firm of the Year.
He is still trying to "play along" with the medics, be polite, patient, helpful.I rang because I couldn't bear it. He was annoyed, said I was meddling. I was, and if I hadn't, how much longer would we be waiting?
I'll do it again, if I need to and again and as many times after that as I need to.
He hates me doing it.
He at least has some real pain relief from our GP today, he had to ask for it, he was in agony.
I think you should meddle, it is affecting you and your family as much as it is your husband and you need to get his treatment under way as soon as possible.
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You must meddle - if my husband had not meddled with my mother only recently she would have had no tests and no treatment - the hospital displayed blatant age discrimination - thanks to his meddling she not only got her tests and treatment but is only seen by consultants - the housemen and registrars were kept out of it. She is being discharged in 8 days - walking out not in a coffin!
I wish I had some news, best would be on the illness front, I have none except my meltdown to report and the pain relief of course, that is very important, it's morphine, he thinks that is bad, serious drugs.
No news from payplan either yet except they were very prompt and did suspend our next payment .
Don't shout - they will have down as emotionally disturbed; do as my husband did - he insisted on seeing a consultant, he looked him straight in the eye and spoke very quietly but firmly.
Morphine isn't so much a last resort now - you get that as pain relief when you have an operation, so you need to talk him out of that one.
He does sound as though he needs a little gentle helping hand Ida - you carry on as you have been doing.
I wish I lived closer to you and could do something to help out.
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The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
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I think the emotionally disturbed ship already sailed Elv [:D][:D][:D][:D]
I know what you mean and I was firm and reasonable. I actually asked the person telling me it was all fine and easily explained he has heard nothing because one secretary is on holiday. She told me well, actually no.......................it's not actually reasonable,
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The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
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