I had put the IVAs out of my mind, worried about him and absorbed with it, now I know a proposal will be put to the creditors I am terrified they will say no.
I can't pay them even if they do, and we were so close to finishing.
I am sure your creditors will be sympathetic to the fact that your husband is so ill, and the fact that you are so close to finishing.
Everything will work out ok Ida.
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Thank you all! I am being daft but well, no house to bring him home to when he is well? No car to drive him in? It's borderline if I can afford it without the IVA to be honest, but that is something I'll worry about when I have to.
The email I had was great, she said she is pulling together figures etc the accounts dept would check it, she'd send me copies ofm it all, and then she said this takes a long time so don't worry if you don't hear from me for a good while.He'll be well into chemo I assume by then and I will have no way to backtrack and get out and earn some money to pay them.
Only just caught up with this thread. What can i say that has not already been said?
I'm so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis.
Try not to worry about your creditors, they are not nearly as important as family. Anyhow, i'm sure they will be very sympathetic.
You just concentrate on hubby at the moment - we're all sending positive thoughts to you.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
I wobble, I am sorry to say but I do, scared still to be honest, really want to just sleep without my last thought being he has cancer and wake up at a decent time, not an hour after I finally drop off and not have he has cancer as my first thought.
I'm not strong, not finding any inner thing, any better person, I have to get through each day and each situation.To be honest, when they face you there aren't too many choices, go under or try to swim really, I try to swim.
You are bound to wobble, you have had a massive shock and you are bound to be very scared.
I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 3 and a half years ago, not nearly as bad i know but boy did i wobble. I almost wobbled myself into divorce and nervous breakdown.
I too had Chemo (clinical trial)
You will get stronger, because you have to but give yourself time to get over the shock.
You are among friends here (although only virtual) and us friends are always here for eachother, through highs and lows and its often easier to offload to those not as close to you as real friends and family.
Take it one day at a time and we will be with you every step of the way keeping you positive xxxxx
