Good to see that things are moving along with your hubby.
Keep us informed.
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They finally are moving. I think this scan is pretty much the last thing now before they do something! Back to oncologist on Weds if scan all as they thought, chemo following week.
It just has taken so long, so much waiting. It almost drove me mad!
I am not thinking about money at all, as far as I am concerned I have the money for petrol to the appointments, I have money to buy him pyjamas and new towels and all he might need for hospital (a long way away I know, 6 months of chemo and a 6 week break possibly).
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
Regards, David Mond, Insolvency Practitioner for over 46 years. Personal Insolvency Practitioner of the year 2012, Personal Insolvency Practitioner of the year finalist 2013 & 2014 awarded by Insolvency & Rescue Magazine and 2015 finalist for Personal Insolvency Firm of the Year.
IF I may rant as usual, when we were waiting for the biopsy results, I was explaining to a student why I might not be around as long as I should be, I added I suppose 42 sounds very old to you, I mean as a student, it did to me.
It is not old though, is it.
He has an old man's disease, he is not old.
He has a smokers disease, he isn't a smoker.
Things are moving now and I am grateful.
IVA is 5 years? Am I the only person ever to have been at the start and looked so forward to the end? Now our end...............
Anyway, they will give the tumour chemo, shrink it, he will eat, ok not feel good but he will be able to EAT he hasn't been able for a year!
Then in the late A utumn, early Winter, they will take the thing away, he will have less cancer than anyone on any street at any time, I mean we will KNOW HE IS Cancer free at that point, won't we?
42 is NOT old....or at leadt I hope not, I'm nearing 41 [:D]
To be honest we all wish the time away whilst in an IVA etc...so for you to want the 5yrs to end is normal.
Come autumn/winter...end of 2009, you will know if your huuby is cancer free. He has your love and support and if that counts for anything, well it HAS to be positive.
We will help you all we can, you can rant away on here anytime.
Let us know if there's anything at all we can help with. You're not too far from me, so even if its a coffee, we'll be there for you [;)]
My delightful middle boy, I mean he is a true sweetie, waited till his Dad was out of the room and asked me if we were getting a divorce. I asked why on earth he'd think that, he said because Daddy is so angry with you.
He actually is, I, in turn am angry at the cancer so it is fine and we are closer no0w than w ever were, it is just so soul destroying. My older kids thought that when this was over they would be "normal" there would be some money for them to have some things they want and the things they get would not be guarded closer than the Royal family when they get them.
We are on an UP and I am ranting.............
Listen, he's angry, you're angry and why bleeping not! He'll take it out on you, because he knows for certain, you willalways be there for him. Likewise, you rant and take it out on us love, we will never take offence and will be there for you....I'm sure you know that by now [;)]
When your children are older and look back, they will be so proud of you Ida, you really are remarkable. xx
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We WILL tell them all, thing is, so far we have had delays. temper, uncertainty.
HOW would it help thm to be involved in any of that?
I have a kind of date in my mind, day after first chemo, have been told possibly a week (hair loss can take that long to start) once we can't HIDE IT and no apologies for that, what will it benefit them to be scared a few weeks longer?
I actually remember my mother, I was 4, so ill she was so incredibly ill, cancer of the brain stem, secondary to the breast cancer they tried to treat, it wouldn't have helped me to know what was going to happen.
MY kids will know Dad is ill NOW the sicker the chemo makes him the better he will be, he will be fine.
So, when they can see they wilol be told and by that time we will know where we are going, what is next and how long each phase will be.
We will follow his progress with you Ida and send you all of our positive thoughts.
You will both get through this.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
