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Post by ivas4us » Wed May 27, 2009 8:35 pm
At least things are happening now which always give you a lift. Chemo is a very effective treatment and I wish your husband all the very best whilst undergoing chemo and hope he starts to feel better soon.
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Post by wonder » Wed May 27, 2009 8:50 pm
I admire your strength, a lot of people on here are thinking about you and your family and wish you the best and hope your hubby is feeling better soon. Sending love & best wishes your way.
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Post by kallis3 » Wed May 27, 2009 9:20 pm
I am wishing you all the best as well Ida. So glad you were able to laugh yesterday and that you are being strong for each other.

I hope you get some definitive answers soon, and good luck to your hubby with his chemo.
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Post by Ida Clare » Wed May 27, 2009 9:58 pm
THANK YOU ALL.

HEARTFELT.

It was the not knowing, I mean, "HE has CANCER but that's your lot on it" that we couldn't deal with. We have been together for 24 years, since we were 18, living together I mean, a couple. Too long to contemplate one of us leaving at 42.

We have always had fun, fun as in enjoyed being with each other, even the bad stuff because we have each other, and when we had the kids we felt the same, each of them were just more and more of the good stuff. I have no doubt everyone here can say the same.

So now we know what we are doing, we, us, a couple, we are doing it because a) We need each other, no question and b) we have children, they have to have him.

Now we know what it is we can face it, it's easier.

I hope that made sense and I sound more like me than the nutjob I became?

THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH.

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Post by ivas4us » Wed May 27, 2009 10:03 pm
So pleased you are sounding so much happier. There are soem tough times ahead with the chemo, but by doing it together will make it easier for hubby. He needs your support and together you will get through this. All the best wishes in the world and we are always here for you.
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Post by Ida Clare » Thu May 28, 2009 10:28 pm
We will be ok, not blind faith but what else can we be?

This PET scanner, it saw "bad" stuff, from what I have read today anything, anything from a pimple if it's set to look, to a tumour and it will flag it up. YES he has a lump in his jaw, you can see it if you look closely and know where to look, he hasn't eaten for a year, not properly, not slept properly for as long, more probably, first symptom was pain in back and vomiting late at night. IF you put me under that PET scanner it'd see some things that are flagged as "bad", I haven't eaten well for a while ( I AM NOW, NOW I have something to fight) not slept, plenty of "bad" to be flagged up on me, and I feel and AM FINE, never mind him, so ill and run down.

So we need to get a picture of what is wrong and whatever it is we will be together, we'll sort it.

I have to add the money as not a worry helps, it really does, it means I can buy him some jamas and some towels with no holes ,as well as afford the petrol to the hospitals (Velindre Cancer Centre? Royal Glamorgan Hospital) both some 30 miles away from us, Velindre we need to go to twice a week for as long as is forseeable, I'd walk there etc but in reality, petrol costs a lot of money..................I have a LITTLE to pay for it now payplan helped me out, suspended the payment s I can make a list, top being what I spend on petrol money, rest being to be budgeted.
 
 

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Post by kallis3 » Thu May 28, 2009 10:44 pm
I'm glad at least one worry is taken care of Ida.

Things are moving, and hopefully everything will be on the up soon.
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Post by MelanieGiles » Fri May 29, 2009 12:45 am
Ida

I live just outside Cardiff, and I know Velindre Hospital very well. Indeed I know the very good work that they do there very well and if you want someone to meet up with you and just have a girlie chat you only have to call. Julie (Swansgirl) is also not too far away, and if you feel you need a break we will come and help.

Right now you must feel very alone - for me personally the most precious thing in my life is that grumpy lump (commonly known as husband!) who has a moan and groan but is my souldmate and I love him dearly. I can fully appreciate what you are going through, but we are a family on this site, and if you need us local Welah girls to rally round - or just give you a little respite from your focus - you just have to yell. If you prefer to e-mail me directly that is fine too!

Much love and hugs coming your way - and he is a fighter, 'cos he loves you all very much too!
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Post by Julie » Fri May 29, 2009 7:43 am
Hi Ida - I fully back what Melanie has said. If EVERyou need a girly chat, a place to moan or even a lift to the hospital, you just let us know.

If its any consolation and I'm sure its not at the moment, we're so lucky to have the Velindre so close. You'll get through this, I know you will.

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Post by kallis3 » Fri May 29, 2009 11:37 am
What a lovely offer girls!

I wished I lived closer and could do something to assist.
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Post by Ida Clare » Fri May 29, 2009 6:48 pm
You are all so kind and of course I'd be honoured to meet you both, all of you!

I just apologised on another forum, I am so self obsessed and I am sorry.

I am not usually so, truly.

Once we get this new biopsy back, once he is in a routine, once we know what is the next step, my mind might be my own again.

Thank you all, sincerely.

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Post by ivas4us » Fri May 29, 2009 6:52 pm
What Really great offers of support From Melanie and Julie. Ida I really hope you take them up on thier offers as sometimes its nice just to have someone independant to talk to to get things off your mind that you may be bottling up around loved ones. All the very best.
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Post by Ida Clare » Fri May 29, 2009 7:12 pm
I will take them up on it.

I really will.

This Weds is the "Long Day" he has there, even if we threaten each other with violence, I won't be able to leave him alone I wasn't able to today, this new biopsy yesterday, I thought I was better than I am.
Got up at 3am to look at him sleeping, how daft is that? I couldn't sleep anyway!

As soon as I can see something good happening, I mean this PET scanner, it was suppsoed to help, give good news..............it gave more questions and fears.


I KNOW that is how life is, I know that, just well, as soon as something good happens I'll be perfectly fine.
 
 

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Post by Skippy » Fri May 29, 2009 7:37 pm
That's a lovely offer from Julie and Melanie, and like Jan I wish I lived close enough to help you.

There's nothing daft about watching him sleep, you love him and you're worried about him so it's natural to want to be near him.

Take care, and although I'm too far away to meet up I'm always here for you on the forum xxx
 
 

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Post by Ida Clare » Fri May 29, 2009 8:21 pm
It IS an incredibly lovely offer and very soon I WILL take both up. Melanie, do you se my email?

PLEASE mail me, please pass it to all and anyone I must thank!

ONCE thigs start, once there is a way forward, however bad the news, and it won't be bad but remember that Friday night I was here, early hours of saturday morning..................that was exactly 2 weeks before we had any hospital contact had I not rung our GP at the end of the first week of it, the NHS would have had no problem telling him, alone, he had cancer, just that, tests pending, he has cancer, who knows how bad or what will be next..........left him with paracetamol as pain relief........and only on Wednesday of this week did we have any support, any help andone to ask what is going on and get a sensible answer.

Oh, I BANGED doors, HE has as well...............tests pending, no answers...........no help.

YOU all helped.

Grrrrrrrr and I waso n an up eh?

I AM honest.

THANK YOU ALL.

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