Serious illness

[Ida Clare]

Hiya all, Heidi xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

They are not much interested in his his jaw at the moment, the morphine means he has no pain and the oromorph stops it tailing off between doses. They did say they will look at it more closely but he is having chemo and that is what they'd want for it anyway, and in the lung lining.


I won't pretend I am not upset, they said they'd operate, take it away, it'd be gone, and now they can't.

It's all a bit much today.

I have some sleeping pills scary strength am hoping to get to sleep without them at some stage.

[Ida Clare]

Ida Clare

I have read your post with admiration of your strength.

I speak as someone who has experienced this very close and very recently. I want you to know if I can be any help to you email me and let me know, there are lots of good people on this site that genuinely care.

Chin up. Talking things through with others is and was a great help to me.Tony

Not today xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxNot having a terribly strong day.

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[Pap]

Ida

I'm sorry you're having such a rubbish time at the moment and I wish I could do or say something to make it better for you.
I went through an awful experience a couple of years ago, not the same as you're going through but I can understand some of the way you're feeling.
The best piece of advice given to me by someone who had been through the same as me was to just go day by day, hour by hour if that was all I could manage and, when things were really bad for me and I felt like giving in, just one breath at a time, don't think beyond that.
I know you don't feel like you're being strong, I know that if you had the choice you wouldn't choose this path but just because you didn't choose it doesn't mean you're not being strong.
Please look after yourself, eat as and when you can and don't worry about the sleeping tablets. In time you will manage to sleep without them, sometimes even now I have to have a short course of them to give me some reprieve from what we're dealing with but the doctors know that you have to sleep. Sleep allows your brain to process everything that's happening which is why it's so important.
Just one breath at a time Ida, and I'm here, like everyone else on here, for you if you ever need anything at all, just let me know.
Wishing you the strength to get through this, you are all in my thoughts

P x

[MelanieGiles]

That is fantastic advice from Pap. I know that she and her hubby had a really awful experience a couple of years ago, and she is living proof that life can go on - but you just have to take little steps and look after yourselves along the way.

[janjan]

Ida - just wanted to say I am thinking of you and your family and wish I had a magic wand that would make everything better for you now.

I know you must be feeling that it will never be good again, but it will - listen to Pap's advice to take things day by day, hour by hour.

Janet x

[wonder]

Thats a lovely post pap. Ida you're an inspiration to me and I look at you with the strength you have to carry on each day. You & your family are always in my thoughts and i feel ashamed of how I feel sorry for myself at times when I'm not going through anything like you are. Please know that no matter how bad you may feel we are all thinking of you and are here to help. Look forward with hope.

[Ida Clare]

You won't believe this, I just wept all over Elv about it, I had a car crash! Well ok bump, no one hurt honest, my little girl is shaken and that is probably more her unease about her Daddy than the bump. Anyway, from the damage to my car and the one driven by the teenage racers who loiterally DID speed up the street in front of me and I am first to admit that technically and legally it's MY fault but that road was clear when I pulled out they were speeding,

I have not the energy to even think of arguing, the driver was as scared as I was about injuries, polite, respectful, kind, he even put his arm around my little girl and told her it was all fine, an accident.

It was and so the insurance will sort it, all done, rung, notified in hand.

My R was furuious though, stressed and he ..............well...................I am deeply sorry I caused that, it won't help him, will it?

(I also see that my current state of mind might be to blame, it isn't, I stopped at that junction, looked carefully, I was actually looking for a place to park along it, it was clear when I pulled out, it really was.)

[MelanieGiles]

So sorry to hear about your rotten day Ida, and the fact that you are shaken up, but leave it to the insurance company to sort out for you and hopefully they will get it repaired for you soon.

[kallis3]

Ida I am so sorry to hear about your accident. You are all bound to be stressed by it. The only good thing is that the boy racer was nice to you both.

I hope you get it sorted soon.

[ivas4us]

Ida I am so sorry you have had more bad luck but please leave the car for the insurance company to worry about as thats what you pay them for. You have enough to think about already. Hope things get better soon. Our thoughts are with you.

[Ida Clare]

Well, if I can say the bad side is like everyone in an IVA we had the bog standard least cost/cover insurance as possible, so it is going to cost.

BETTER and more important the fury of my R was magnificent as was his sorting it all out.

I was able to see the man I married, still there!

The ill deprssed man went out for a while!!!!!!!!!!

I don't know if that makes any sense? The night I joined here and slept a night last was the last time HE was here, and tonight he was!

[kallis3]

At least something positive has come out of this Ida, you have your old hubby back and long may it last.

[MelanieGiles]

It has taken his mind of worrying about his health Ida, and given him something else to focus on. You know that your old hubby is still inside the frame, and he will be back one day when he gets better.

[Ida Clare]

He's there, not far away, the real him is in there, and he'll get better, he will, if he can be normal NOW, when the treatment helps him (and I KNOW the route is bad, so bad we will question it's kindness and worth) he will be back, he will be the same.

Well, he'll be wiser I assume, will ehjoy his health as much as we all will!

The crash is gonna hurt the purse though I think [:D][:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]

[Skippy]

Sorry to hear you've had an accident Ida, and that it's going to cost you to get it fixed. The main thing is that you and your daughter are ok.

Love to you all xxx