Serious illness

[janjan]

So sorry Ida - but at least nobody was hurt and your hubby was still there for you when you needed him - however he is feeling. This proves that he will have the strength to get through the next few months - as will you.

Janet x

[Ida Clare]

Thanks to all of you.

My daughter is very upset, or she was, not hurt at all, it wasn't that sort of impact anyway, but she was shaken, told me she hated me, wanted her daddy to come get her.

That is because of the vibe at home, I know it is.

It'll change.

He is there still.

Once he feels better, and he started chemo on Weds, we'll be a family again.

Well, we still are a family, no one has changed just the pressures and stuff.........

[Pap]

Sorry to hear about your day.
No matter what else is going on you are still a family and that is all that matters. I'm really glad that no-one was hurt and your daughter is just lashing out at you, probably because she's so safe with the knowledge that you love her unconditionally and she's hurting and doesn't know how else to express it. We always hurt the people closest to us when we hurt.
Take care of all of you, that spark you saw in your husband earlier will help you all get through this, remember it in your dark hours ahead.

Thinking of you all

P x

[janjan]

You will be a very strong family when you all get through this ... and your daughter certainly does not hate you - it was just her way of lashing out from the shock of the crash and because she is worried about you and her daddy.

Take care

Janet x

[kallis3]

Totally agree with janjan. Your daughter will be fine once the shock of the accident has gone.

Glad your 'real' hubby is still there.

[Ida Clare]

As always thank you all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No, she doesn't hate me and it was an accident, I mean if I could have not done it, I wouldn't have done it.

First thing she said was "I want my DADDY to come and get me", he's her champion, hero..............

He IS now, always will be..........

She doesn't hate me, she just loves him, we all do.

[Ida Clare]

The bump wasn't even that bad, expensive alright but bad..............no. I have never , in 20 years of driving had a bump, well, one and that was clear cut, someone ran right into me, no question, this kind of bump no never, probably in my frame of mind was my fault and I'd say so if it were, Insurance is on it now anyway, but it wasn't my fault, this was a boy racer going too fast.


I honestly don't care, I was worried how my R would feel, wa sit one thing too maby one worry over the coping range?

It SEEMS OK, and he was HIM.....................

I am past caring, if a prang with a speeing kid wearing his hat backwards and showing his car off to his mates were the worst I had to worry about I'd like to think I'd do the same as I did now with it meaning nothing, they were ok, we were ok, no one hurt, I checked them, they were polite and kid to my littkle girl, quits, was NOT my fault, was them but I have no energy to argue as well as technical trouble, I pulled out on them, and them...........polite, kind worried for my little girl.

Not a worry.

[Julie]

Sorry you had a bump and glad you're all okay!!! All us girls want our daddy in time of need eh??

Keep the positive thoughts going hun....we're with you all the way xx

[Ida Clare]

I said the bump wasn't so bad, it was dark and raining, it was bad, no one hurt, that's the important thing, it really is, but well, my poor lovely car was hurt I can tell you.

My beloved R was a little better today, his mood, not brilliant, and he has a perfect and absolute right but it hurts to see him so depressed, but he was a little betetr today.

We talked a little, not too much but he told me to have faith in him I told him it was never in question, never, I will, as always reserve the right to nag him though, I will nag about that cough I want seen to, I want him to tell the medics he has it, I will nag him about how much he eats, I KNOW I know he can't eat, I know but the little he CAN eat, he has to now factually, he can't take his chemo on an empty stomach, I am carefully watching his fluids, the one day he had one cup of tea all day was noted and no more, never again, when I am having a cuppa, he will join me with something, anything, whatever he will have but he'll have something.

He won't resent me mind, I always nag him about stuff, no need to stop now, is there?

[ivas4us]

Thats a great spirit and I am sure that he knows you are nagging with the best of intentions and yes he will need strength to get through chemo as it does make you bad to make you better (if that makes sense). It is hard road you are on but you have everyone on the forum trsvelling the same road in the same direction and we will make sure you get to the end. Keep up the good spirits.

Thinking of you all as ever.


Paul

[Julie]

Whats the point of being a woman if you can't nag [:)]....he knows you have his best interest at heart and you're obviously a very strong couple..

Hope the children are okay too xx

[Skippy]

That's a good attitude Ida, and he'll know you're doing it because you love him.

Keep thinking positive and don't forget we're all here for you xxx

[Ida Clare]

You all got me this far xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

He may wll be a sick man but it don't give him a nag pass.[:D][:D][:D][:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]

I was asking him if swallowing was a bit easier today, it seemed to be, not that he had much to swallow and nothing he knows he can't cope with, melted ice cream etc...............anyway he said he wasn't sure, it wasn't worse for sure but it was different.

Tjis is chemo day 3, I was told that by chemo day 6 he should be able to swallow most things without a problem.

[kallis3]

That sounds much more positive Ida, and if it takes some nagging to get him back to being the man you know, then you nag all you need![:D]

[Lisa2009]

Ida, a little reassurance if i may.....

I know MS isnt nearly as bad as what you and your hubby are going through BUT just to let you know...hubby and me are as solid as a rock.
I was diagnsed with the MS after a bad year of relapses. I went through every emotion and the depression was horrendous. I was horrible i tell you. We almost split up i got that bad.
I wanted the old me back so god only knows how much hubby wanted it.
I too went through chemo (clinical trial) I had 5 lots. I hated the me i had turned into.
I still loved him desperately but making him know that was just so hard when my emotions were all over the place.
He is in there and one day soon you will see the old him more and more often as he starts to improve. Hubby and me are stronger than ever these days.

Rest assured, the angry, depressed hubby you have now loves you just as much as the hubby he was when he was well and when he is better he will love you even more. Just stay positive and keep fighting for that.