Next Wenesday, the scan, the one that tells if the chemo did anything, the one that says what is next, what treatment................ what will make him better, give us our lives back.
Curative will be the anwer not palliative.
CURATIVE
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In himself he is awful, hopefully nowhere near as bad as the chemicals make him. Physically and mentally he is at his limits.
It all hurts him, nuff said.
Holidays make it a bit harder, have to keep the kids upbeat, is hard to do with no money, we are ok mind!
Just next week
I HAve a question though...........he is very very opposed to our Macmillan nurse knowing about our IVAs I suggested that telling them and aboutv sept 1s MIGHT hlp?
I would agree Ida that it would help if the nurse knew what other pressures R is under at the moment. He really should not be even thinking about this - but easier said than done I know. If I were you I would have a quiet word with the nurse, which can do no harm so long as they keep it confidential. You have far wider issues to deal with right now, than debts - and I think you are doing a great job at keeping it all together.
Make sure you let us know how next week goes. My very best wishes to you all.
I am sure the nurses would not be at all judgemental, it might help to tell them.
I hope he feels more his own self soon.
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As you may know, Mrs Size is a specialist cardiac rehab nurse, and she agrees that disclosure of such info, whilst maybe being a little hard, is absolutely critical in assessing an individuals situation. Stress is such a killer that not divulging it, and rest assured that your nurses will carry your secret to the grave rather than tell anyone, can be very dangerous.
Sitting and stewing is rarely the right answer.
Regards.
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23+ years in debt advice
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Melanie, I have to be honest here, when he goes to the hospital, he can't manage the walk to the main door. The answer? DISABLED badge. To get that he needs DLA, was turned down out of hand I mean he applied on the mon by the fri they went get stuffed. Macmillan got that sorted their LOVELY LADY was here today he has his DLA his badge, I wated to tell her, Hilary about sept 1st.
I add here becauseit will choke me, DLA, you have yo say the right thing in the right box????????Pay in for 20+ years and you have cance5r, cancr you will recover from and work after for 20 years and pay tax and when you need it whn you have cancer when you are not so much after money but help badges so you don't need an ambulance, so you can get chemo..............they say NO BECAUSE you can't LIE GOOD enough?
He should be able to get DLA with what he is enduring? I cant believe that 'they' can treat you like that. I understand youre not after money etc but NEEDS, its just appauling and the last ever attitude you need.
The benefits system in this country leaves a lot to be desired, and sometimes it seems that the most needy are the most prejudiced. But well done to those MacMillan nurses and the jobs they do - which extend far beyond the scope of mainstream nursing.
As I said, even though we have IVAs he only wanted the claim to be approved so he can have that badge, the badge that allows him to drive himself and park.
20+ years he paid in same with me, he has cancer, tat is CANCER and because ge didn't answer the con the lies on the form they turned him down.
Talk about kicking someone when they are down. When you have what you have on your plate they should be helping you. Not judging or making assumptions on what the motive for the claim really is. I know you have far too much on your plate right now but a complaint against this person wouldnt be such a bad thing.
Good luck with everything, you are really doing so well. I dont know what you must be going through on the inside hun, you sure come across as being well in control on the outside.
My hubby is by no means as ill as yours Ida, he has ischaemic heart disease, unstable angina, COPD, and he managed to get DLA and the badge last year no problem.
It all depends on how you fill the form in I think.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
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